Denise Dances: A Return to Perfect Health - Body, Mind & Spirit!

Thursday, December 30, 2010



Father knows best!
Work if you are able!
Bring it to the table.

Giving it your all!
Doing what you're called
To do it all.

Put your love to the test!
You can be it all!
You can have it all!
Do it - Be it - Have it all!
Do it - Be it - Beat it!
Have it all!

Do it! Do it! Do it!
Be be be, be be it!
Be be be, be be beat it!
Be it! Do it! Have it all!

Father knows best!
Yo can have it - do it - be it - all!
Beat it!
Be it! Do it! Have it all!

Father knows best.
Work if you are able
Lay it all on the table
Be it! Do it! Have it all!
Be, be, be, be, be it!
Be, be, be , be beat it!
Be it, do it, have it all!


ri - tal - e - a - shen,  re-! n-!
re- tal - iat - ive, ri- tal -e  -at -ir!
re- tal- i- a  -to- ry!
tal - ye - tor - e!
tal - e e, tor- adj!
re- ta - li - a - tory!
re -ta - li -a - tory! Re!
re ta tah!
re ta tah!

ri - tal - e - a - shen! re-! n-!

By Denise Hickey
Dec. 25, 2010

Go with the Flo!

The "Flo Gris," that is. "The Magic of Christmas," A Festive Holiday Celebration through January 9, 2011. Running concurrently with "The Connecticut Embroiderers" exhibit, "With Needle and Brush." Florence Griswold Museum, 96 Lyme Street (just off the I-95 Exit ramp); Old Lyme. Open Tuesdays thru Saturdays, 10-5pm. Sundays, 1-5pm. $9.00 admission for most adults. For more info, call (860)434-5542 or go to:
"Follow me there. Follow me there."

The Perfect Model

"Alaska! I love this state like I love my own family." SARA PALIN'S ALASKA, airing on TLC TV, Sundays, 7-10pm. ("Follow me there. Follow me there.") Check your TV Guide for local listings. Happy New Year! (Denise...Denise Dances...2011)

Gossip vs Slander

(1) gossip: n [ME gossib, fr OE godsibb, fr. god + sibb kinsman, fr. sibb related] 1a: dial Brit: GODPARENT b: COMPANION, CRONY c: a person who habitually reveals personal or sensational facts 2a: rumor or report of an intimate nature b: a chatty talk c: the subject matter of gossip syn see REPORT

(2) slander: n [ME slaundre, slaundre, fr OF esclandre, fr LL scandalum stumbling block, offense - more at SCANDAL] 1: the utterance of false charges or misrepresentations which defame and damage another's reputation 2: a false and defamatory oral statement about a person - compare LIBEL.

Denise Hickey
Americans with Disabilities (ADA)
Fair Housing Act

Fair Housing Act


(1) stalk: vb [ME stalken, fr. OE, be stealcian; akin to OE Stealc lofty, stelan to steal -- more at STEAL] vi 1: to pursue quarry or prey stealthily 2: to walk stiffly or haughtily - vt. 1: to pursue by stalking 2: to go through (an area) in search of prey or quarry. - stalker n.

(2) stalking horse: 2: something used to mask a purpose. 3: a candidate put forward to divide the opposition or to conceal someone's real candidacy.

(3) slander: n [ME sclaundere, slaundre, fr. OF esclandre, fr. LL scandalum stumbling block, offense, - more at SCANDAL] 1: the utterance of false charges or misrepresentations which defame and damage another's reputation 2: a false and defamatory oral statement about a person - compare LIBEL.

(4) oust: vt [AF ouster, fr OF oster, fr LL obstare to ward off, fr. L, to stand against, fr ab - against + stare to stand - more at OB, STAND] 1a: to remove from or dispossess of property or position by legal action, by force, or by the compulsion of necessity b: to take away (as a right or authority): BAR, REMOVE 2: to take the place of: SUPPLANT syn see EJECT.

(5) ouster: n [AF, to oust] 1a: a wrongful dispossesson 2: EXPULSION

Denise Hickey
Americans with Disabilities (ADA)
Fair Housing Act

"God has blessed me so I can be a blessing to others. But I can't do it without you, my Guardian Angels here on Earth and my One in Heaven."

Wednesday, December 29, 2010


If you are watching me, what do you have to hide that you don't want anyone else to know about?

Stalkers Beware!

The thing about stalking is that it is unnerving and hard to prove.  Why do you think I stick so closely to a routine on most days?  Because of the situation I'm in! However, where I live, there are cameras in the front entrance outside, in the foyer, outside the elevators in the lobby, and at both side entrances, and on stairwells on either side of my apartment building. You'd think people would smarten up. Unfortunately, I noticed a similar behavior on the boardwalk at Ocean Beach today, where I plan to walk and frequent the place for the rest of my life, God willing! I've often seen him; a tall, skinny man in a tan coat with a hood pulled up over his head.  Today, it was obvious that I was being followed.  And I did the smart thing. (Gold car, 684 LAU) It might not be anything, but he fled the scene pretty fast. "If you can read this, U R standing much too close."

Reap What You Sow

"...that which you sow, you shall also reap." At this late age of 48, I am finally enjoying a modicum of success with my God-given talents in writing and art.  I haven't been able to make a living at either talent so far, but I often joke that I have a wish to be, not rich, but famous!  Fame can mean different things for different people.  But without a support system of family and friends and a stable home where you feel safe, protected, and loved; the enticements of fame & riches & the Big City can get the best of you. (See Lindsey Lohan, a lost soul, and Britney Spears, sweet soul with a "stage mom." Did you know her mother actually wrote a book about her own daughter? and probably got rich off of it? It was actually her father who saved her!)  In a past not so pleasant relationship, I was often told that because I "went to college to party," and continued the party into New York in the late 80s..."the reason you're in the situation you're in is because you moved to New York and that was a mistake." I worked my way through college, majoring in English and moved to NYC to become a writer.  I didn't have clear goals. I moved to New York with only my big blue suitcase and three hundred dollars in my pocket, as well as a student loan owed to Eastern Connecticut State University (which has since been PAID IN FULL by me). I moved to New York with dreams of making it big as a writer.  And I got the Big Story.  Since I've moved back home to Connecticut, the stories have accumulated.  How can they not when you call your home "News London!"  I often joke, "Anything for a good story." But the price I've paid is the lack of material success, a nest egg for a rainy day, and the chance to start my own family (when the realization struck me at age 40, I became very depressed and would often cry from the time I woke up in the morning until the time I went to bed at night, usually suffering from insomnia).  So...why don't you....step outside that lens, my friend? And capsize, with all the lies that you've been living in?....I often wonder where I would be today if I hadn't extended a chance invitation to a friend: "Hey. Do you wanna go out to Ocean Pizza?" that fateful winter day in 2001...Who is that stranger in your midst? And how much longer are you going to ignore her? (REMEMBER: "That which you sow, you shall also reap.") "I've got to see this movie. I've got to see it; I've got to see it! Are we going? We're going; aren't we?  If we don't go, I'm going to be mad!!!...* * * :) COMING Niantic Cinemas.

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Up and Coming!

The Hygienic "Salon des Independants" Winter Art Festival will be in late January, the last weekend, I believe.  The Opening Reception occurs on a Saturday evening at 7pm.  Read "The Day" to follow the latest opening art receptions and exhibits every Tuesday. FREE to the public with a small fee for soda and wine. With free refreshments. There you will be able to see: "Wish You Were Here" (Seagulls All Around); Panel # 7 of my Mural of Long Island Sound. "Seeing the Light" will hang in my beautiful niece Julia's bedroom.  Merry Christmas, Julia! (Love, Auntie Denise) For more info, go to:

Happy New Year!

I would like to take the time out today to thank all of my faithful Readers, since May 2008, and those of you who arrived at my site later and have followed me through to the end.  Stay with me! Up Next I promise to bring you the CONCLUSION: By Accident to "Fool's Gold," my novel about my life in New York City in the late 1980s.  For more info, go to:
Danger becomes her? What would I do without it? Who would I be? Would I be bored? Would I run out of things to write about?  And will I ever feel truly safe? Is anyone safe these days? Stay tuned and I promise to have the dramatic conclusion out to you by...tomorrow?
Life is tough, but I'm tougher! But not without my Guardian Angels, here on Earth and My One in Heaven! ("I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.") At this time, I would like to offer my congrats to those of you who have been lucky enough to find love, in one form or another. Just in time for Christmas! First comes Christian Duty to help others in need...then Health, then Success, then the hot new place, then "mi caro nuevo..." Are we there yet???... * * * :)

Wednesday, December 22, 2010


That's no angel coming down from heaven. A burglar was busted after he descended into an East Elmhurst church from a rope he dangled through a skylight, sources said. Garcia Ismael, 17, was caught on Oct. 18 at 1:30 pm by a pastor in the Iglesia Cristiana Cielos Church at 32nd Avenue and 103rd Street, according to sources. Cops were called and Ismael, who had a box cutter, was arrested and charged with burglary, possession of burglary tools and criminal trespass, said a spokeswoman for DA Richard Brown.

19 Hits!

19 hits -- and counting! Thank you all for taking "time out" from your Christmas shopping to read my Blog-o-sphere.  Now, I would like to pause here for a time out.  I've managed to survive for the past 48 years and I am steadfast in my loyalties. Unwavering. I've learned who my friends are and who my "false friends," my worst enemies are.  You may think no one sees what you are doing, but God does see it all.  If I want to survive for the "second half" of my life, I promise to remain true to my true friends out there, no matter what. I made a commitment to my friendship with Paula right up until the end. I promise that if I do my part, I know God will do His part.  I can't do it all alone. (Once again, I would like to thank my Guardian Angels here on Earth and my One in Heaven.  I couldn't have made it this far without each and every one of you.) HAPPY NEW YEAR!


Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Cheaper to Keep Her!

IT (would have been) CHEAPER TO KEEP HER!
(Jim Liban, Junior Brantley)

It's cheaper to keep her
It is cheaper to keep her!
When your little girl makes you mad
You get an attitude and pack your bag
Five little children you're leaving behind
You're gonna pay some alimony or do some time.

It's cheaper to keep her (cheaper to keep her)
It's cheaper to keep her (cheaper to keep her)
See when you get to staring that judge in the face
You're gonna wanna cuss the whole human race
It's cheaper to keep her (cheaper to keep her)
Too much to leave that little girl (Cheaper to keep her)
It's cheaper, it's cheaper, cheaper, it's cheaper --
It's cheaper, it's cheaper
It's cheaper, cheaper, cheaper, cheaper, yeah!

You didn't pay two dollars to bring the girl home
Now you're about to pay two thousand to leave her alone
See another woman out there, you wanna make a change
She ain't gonna want you
'Cause you won't have a damn thing.

It's cheaper to keep her (cheaper to keep her)
Cheaper to keep her (cheaper to keep her)
The time you get to looking at the judge in the face
You're gonna wanna cuss the whole human race.
It's cheaper to keep her (cheaper to keep her)
Cost too much to leave (it's cheaper to keep her)
It's cheaper, cheaper, it's cheaper, it's cheaper
It's cheaper, cheaper
Cheaper, cheaper, cheaper, cheaper, yeah!

If you decide to roam
and leave your happy home
You gotta pay the house note
The child support, your insurance
Alimony, mortgage 1, mortgage 2

It's cheaper to keep her!
It's cheaper to keep her...

It...would have been...


"I have compared thee, O my love
to a company of horses in Pharoah's chariots."
(Song of Solomon 1:9)

OASIS: Field Notes - BLUE ELEPHANT (Carousel Scenes)

Fri, 12.17: Paint 4 charging phantom horses behind carousel - from center of yellow chair to just after mirrors over core. Ghostly, sheer white! (nix the details)
Sat, 12/18: Paint the donkey in foreground - in front of the elephant.
Poles: Elephant - Yes.
Reindeer - No. (he's flying)
Donkey - Yes. (separates Paula)
Phantom horses - No. (they've broken free)

The Reindeer heralds the coming of Christmas.
The Elephant trumpets the Birth of Christ.
The Donkey represents the arrival of Christ on the back of a donkey.
The 4 Phantom Horses represent the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse," according to the Book of Revelation, describing the "end times."

The "Lady in Blue" is my best friend, Paula, whose spirit lives on at Ocean Beach in the afterlife, dancing to a different beat.

COMING SOON - in late January!

Great Gifts on the Web!

For those of you who are last minute shoppers, here are a few on-line gift sites:

Go to:  for earth friendly gifts from National Arbor Day Foundation, including greeting cards, the gift of TREES, organic coffee, Tee shirts, building blocks and more.

Help the animals this holiday season and throughout the year.  Give generously! Go to: Shop for pet-themed cards and designer clothing for you and your pet. Your support will provide shelter animals at the Connecticut Humane Society locations with food, medical care, and lots of TLC!

Merry Christmas, Everyone!

Friday, December 17, 2010

New Hopes & Dreams

Enjoy the cold, clean air, Everyone! It means a fresh start for all of us.  I find it very refreshing.  Although, I can only walk for so long on the Ocean Beach boardwalk before frostbite overtakes me.  After sleeping like a dream last night, which has been rare for me these past ten years of living on unstable ground in New London, I am going to say once and for all: Butt out of my business, Gossips!  I am doing everything I can to stay healthy and well, to do great things and to do normal things.  It is a lot of hard work to avoid trouble.  But I'm trying!  Woe to anyone who tries to get in my way! (P.S. There is a new creative project I got going on! It has to do with Ocean Beach...but I'm not going to tell you yet! Happy New Year!) It should take at least the first six months of the New Year.

33 Hits and Counting!

33 hits on Thursday!  Thanx for reading, everyone and STAY SAFE this holiday season!  The more things change, the more they remain the same. The Situation at hand is bringing back to mind certain behaviors from my past (see VOCAB: slander. harrass. stalk.) at The Residence.  My hopes and dreams are normal for a person of my age who hasn't realized much of them yet.  So...if my behavior is normal...I am going to beg the age old question from my recent past: What do YOU have going on from within that YOU don't want anyone to know about??? 

(Americans with Disabilities)

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Stay Tuned...!

STAY TUNED next week for the dramatic Epilogue to Wonderful Tonight and CONCLUSION: By Accident to "Fool's Gold," the story of my life in NYC in the late 1980s. For more info, go to:  -- (Are we there yet???...* * * :)
I know dem "woolie bullies" will be nice and toasty warm, out back of the Groton Library...but what about me?

Up Up Next...

...the long awaited....STEP OUTSIDE THAT LENS, MY FRIEND! (Who sings that song, anyway?) Just along for the ride...!


Does it come as no him...that I mean what I say...when I say...that he would now...that it would have been........CHEAPER TO KEEP HER!!!...* * * :)

45 Hits!

There were 45 hits this past Tuesday.  Thanx, everyone for taking a time out from your holiday shopping to read my blogs and check out my pix of my past life.  HAPPY HOLIDAYS, Everyone, and Stay Safe!  Enjoy the shops and restaurants in the Downtown District here in New London, but by all means! if you come to visit at night, be safe and come with someone, not alone. Always park and walk in well lit areas where there are plenty of other people around.  The NLPD has received a grant and has officers on foot patrol and cruiser here in downtown New London throughout the Christmas season. Shop smart! If shopping solo, daytime during the week and on the weekend is the best route to go.

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Roatan Island, Honduras (2002)

Red Carpet

Photos to Come - Today!

Hopefully I will have photos this afternoon for you.  See ya soon.

Groton Library: Book Sale!


at the Groton Public Library

December 11-16 during library hours

Featuring used books: Adult Fiction, Children, Mystery
Cookbooks, Spirituality, Travel

Videos, CDs and DVDs

New books signed by local authors

Circle of Friends book bags & mugs

The prices on the used books are way reasonable!

For more info and to receive a GPL newsletter by email,
or email the library at:

The library will close at 5:30pm on Dec. 23. Closed Dec. 24, 25, 26, 31 and January 1 and 2. Check out the new Teenscape Section! Merry Christmas, Everyone!

U.S. Coast Guard Concert 12/19

On Sunday, December 19, 2010 at 2pm, there will be a United States Coast Guard - Holiday Concert - at the Garde Arts Center in downtown New London. No tix or rez required. You can sit anywhere you want! (How about the Skybox, that balcony overhang just above the audience?)

In the recent past, I had the pleasure to meet Conductor Megan and Soprano, Lisa Williamson at The Garde Theater this past fall, during two separate concerts.  While I enjoyed reviewing the concerts, I plan to just attend and enjoy all concerts and movies in the future. While I realize that I prefer certain styles and music, I have to admit: "Different strokes for different folks!"

Yes, I will be going to the Coast Guard Holiday Concert on Sunday afternoon! But I promise not to write about it, but to enjoy it! (It's what Paula would have wanted.)  Merry Christmas, Everyone! Hope to see you there. The best things in life are often FREE.

Monday, December 13, 2010

Up Next Week

UP NEXT WEEK: "Cheaper to Keep Her" and "Step Outside that Lens, My Friend!" "Do You Hear What I Hear?"...more on "Girl Looks Outside"...and helpful hints in a tough economy (on food, clothing and work opps). Plus a visit to a museum in a foreign country by Cyper Space! Photos to come soon, I hope!

Until next time, take care and Merry Christmas! Stay Safe.


Girl Looks Outside

GIRL LOOKS OUTSIDE  "Girl:" Palpable! Real! Lifelike! Pops out of picture! (Like you can touch her)
"Girl Looks Outside" is inspired by "Beatrice at the Door," Oil on Canvas, by Harry Hoffman (1871-1964). Two artists meet as boarders at the Florence Griswold House and later, get married, in 1910. They move to "Chuluota House", which means "beautiful view." (Who, me?  Noooo, not you!  The Lieutenant River!!!...* * * :)
She gazes to her left, to what lies "just beyond the river bend." To the big, wide world which she longs to be part of, to experience. For more info, go to:

Coming in late January, I hope! (And possibly to the annual Hygienic Juried Exhibit, The Sixth Crossing, in April 2011. Check out "The Day" on Tuesdays for more info.)


"The Peacable Kingdom," by Edward Hicks, Oil on Canvas, Circa 1847. (26" x 29 1/2")
Paintings by Hicks are among the most sought after of all American Folk Art. The artist was a Quaker who is known for his many paintings illustrating Biblical stories. From Isaiah: "The wolf also shall dwell with the lamb..." (Philadelphia Museum of Art) From "Folk Painters of America," by Robert Bishop, Director, "Museum of American Folk Art," New York. Copyright 1979, E.P. Dutton.) A Peacable Kingdom...Coming MAAP. For more info, go to:
(Are we there yet???...* * * :)


BLUE ELEPHANT The white wintry sky in late Fall signals the coming of Winter - and - Christmas! As heralded by the Flying Reindeer, just above the blue Baby Elephant on the Carousel.  The blue Baby Elephant trumpets the arrival of a small donkey marches forward. In the background, "Lady in Blue" dances on! The phantom horses are back! charging in the distance, racing against time. Time is running out - for you - and for me. Have you been good this year? 
(Merry Christmas, Everyone! Ho, ho, ho!)
Remember: Christmas only comes once a year. But so does Summer.  For more info on my latest in the series, CAROUSEL SCENES: Blue Elephant, go to:

COMING SOON: The Annual Hygienic Winter Art Festival, "Salon des Independents." Opening Reception in late January.  Check out "The Day" every Tuesday in Region Section for opening receptions and the latest local art gallery exhibits.  Hope to see you there!

Central America

CENTRAL AMERICA in the Western Carribbean -- One of the last great places? (Yeah, been there. On my 40th birthday, my family sent me on a Cruise to the Carribbean, which included stops in Belize, Cozumel, Grand Cayman Island (I wanted to snorkel with the Sting Rays -- and lived to tell about it!)...and my favorite, ROATAN ISLAND, HONDURAS.  Photos to come soon!  This is the only cruise I have ever been on and I hope to return one day in the future.  For more info, go to:

"Wonderful Town"

Behold our nation's most esteemed Gleek. Music/ Comedy legend Carol Burnett graces Glee (Fox TV), having asked her agent "to see if they would be interested in my doing anything." And how Burnett, 77, was cast as Doris Sylvester, mother to Sue (Jane, Lynch, Emmy Award winner). This is a part she will reprise once a month this season on the acclaimed hit TV series,  "Glee." Burnett and Lynch sing "Ohio!" from the musical "Wonderful Town." (FROM TV Guide Magazine, by Lisa Bernhard) (Yeah, seen it! WONDERFUL TOWN, in midtown Manhattan at a local theater, with my sister Kim in -- ah, 2005? Starring Brooke Shields)

Gone with the Wind

"Gone with the Wind" author Margaret Mitchell was born in 1900. Adjusted to today's dollars, the 1939 movie inspired by her novel is the all-time box office earner, ahead of Star Wars, The Sound of Music and ET: The Extra-Terrestrial!

On Giving This Holiday Season

HOW YOU CAN HELP (From "In Style" Magazine, December 2010. )
Hey. It can't hurt to look, can it?

Project ALS/ Jenifer Estess Lab for Stem Cell Research:

World Food Program (sponsored by Christina Aguilera)


Musicares: Nashville Flood Relief Fund:

Harlem Village Academies:

DNA Foundation (Sponsored by Ashton Kucher and Demi Moore) to stop human trafficking.

For more info, see the latest issue of "In Style" Magazine! 

Saturday, December 11, 2010

See Ya Tuesday!

Yes, see ya here on Tuesday, most likely. Live from the Groton Library.  That little timer box here at the NL Public Library drives me batty! UP NEXT: More on "Girl Looks Outside." (My mother and my sister Kelley love me -- ah, the painting!) "The Peacable Kingdom." (Encore, encore!  -- Thanx!) Debbie is back home in Connecticut. For more info, go to:

My latest creations probably won't be photographed until early January and then developed and posted sometime in late January. For more info, keep on checking me out at

Take Care & Happy Holidays!


Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys

"Your guess is as good as mine."


There is much work to be done! "The harvest is rich but the laborers are few." "Many are called but few are chosen." Do what YOU can do.  No one can do everything but everyone can do something.

Follow "The Day" for the next meeting of the New London Anti Violence Activist Group.

"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."
"No weapon formed against me will prosper."
"Through all things, God works for the good of those who love Him."

(Once again, I wouldn't have made it this far without you, my Guardian Angels here on Earth and my One in Heaven.) MERRY CHRISTMAS!


"It is better to light one candle than to curse the darkness." Last Saturday, December 4th, I had the opportunity to walk safely downtown at 3pm, just shortly after my haircut at Bijou in Waterford.  Day turned to night, in the freezing cold night full of Christmas warmth and cheer!  CELEBRATION of Lights and Song Around the World took place on Parade Plaza from 3pm to 5:30pm and beyond.  At 3pm, the children and adults marched down Bank Street accompanied by the Steve Elci & Friends Band, and then danced and sang on the plaza, across from the train station. LEGENDS IN CONCERT from Foxwoods featured a Neil Diamond look-a-like/ sound-alike -- for those of you "old" enough to remember! (Sweet Caroline!)....Next came who else but ELVIS with Blue Christmas and the infamous pelvis shakes. Closely following was the JUVENTUD MAGICA DANCERS, featuring pairs of young men and women dancing to the hot Salsa, Merengue and hip-hop beats of recorded music. DJUM WORXS, the friendly African drum beaters who invoked the audience to participate by clapping! D! WILLIAMS AND THE GOSPEL FAMILY sang soulfully and beautifully while the pine tree on the plaza waited to be lit. At 5:30pm, the tiny clear lights clicked on, aided by Santa Claus himself.  Two ballerinas from Eastern Connecticut Ballet danced on their toes to tunes from THE NUTCRACKER in the window of the Thames River Greenery & Beanery, a magical sight. Sweet! (For more info, go to:
Playing Saturday and Sunday, Dec. 11 & 12.
For more info on upcoming events DOWNTOWN, go to:

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

He Had It Coming!

CELL BLOCK TANGO: "He Had It Coming!"
From: Chicago!

Pop, six, squish, uh-oh, cicero, lipshitz!
And now, the Six Merry Murderesses of the Cook's County Jail in their rendition of:

Pop, six, squish, uh-oh, cicero, lipshitz!

He had it coming! He had it coming!
He only had himself to blame!
If you'd been there - If you'd heard it -
I bet ya, you would have done the same!

You know how people have these habits
That get you down
Like Bernie, he liked to chew gum!
No, not chew, Pop!
So I came home this one day and I'm
Really irritated and I'm looking for a bit of sympathy.
And there's Bernie
Lying down on
The couch drinking a beer and chewing -
No, not chewing, poppin'!
So I said to him, I said
If you pop that gum one more time
And he did so I
Too the shotgun off the wall and fired two warning shots into his head!

He had it coming! He had it coming!
He only had himself to blame!
If you'd been there - If you'd heard it!
I bet ya, you would have done the same!

I met Ezekiel at Salt Lake City
About two years ago
And he told me he was single and we hit it off right away!
So we started living together
He'd come home - I'd fix him a drink - we'd have dinner
And then I found out
Single he told me - Single, my ass!
Not only was he married, oh, no, he had six wives!
One of those Mormons, you know.
So that night, when he came home from work
I fixed him his drink as usual
You know, some guys just can't hold their arsenic!

He had it coming! He had it coming!
He took a power in his stride!
And then he used it and he abused it
It was not a murder but a crime.

Now I'm standing in the kitchen, carvin' up a
Chicken for dinner
Minding my own business when in storms my husband Wilber
in a jealous rage.
"You've been screwing the milkman," he says
He was crazy And he kept on sayin'
"You've been screwing the milkman!"
Then he ran into my knife
He ran into my knife ten times.

If you'd been there, if you'd seen it
I bet ya, you would have done the same!

They had it coming! They had it coming!
They had it coming all along.
I didn't do it, but if I'd done it
How could you tell me that I was wrong.
How could you tell me that I was wrong?

I loved Elle Lipshitz more than I could possibly say
He was a sensitive guy, a painter
Every night, he went out looking for himself
And on the way, he found
Ruth, Gladys, Rosemary, and Irving
You could say we broke up cuz of artistic differences -
He saw himself alive, I saw him dead.

The dirty bum, bum, bum, bum, bum...
The dirty bum, bum, bum, bum, bum...

He had it coming! He had it coming!
He only had himself to blame!
Because he used us
And he abused us
It was not a murder but a crime.

She had it coming! She had it coming!
She had it coming all along.
We didn't do it - But if we'd done it
How could you tell us that we were wrong?

You have it coming! You have it coming!
You only have yourself to blame.
Because you used me and you abused me
It was not a murder but a crime.


UP NEXT: "Cell Block Tango" ("He Had It Coming)..."Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys"..."City of Light" take on the evening festivities which took place on Saturday night and in response to the recent spate of violence here in our Wonderful Town...more healthy tips on Diet & Excercise...more takes on "Girl Looks Outside" (have you had enough already?)....and "The Peacable Kingdom." Next up on "Fool's Gold:" THE RED ROOSTER (Debbie is called back home to smalltown Southeastern Connecticut, after years of working hard and playing hard in the Big Apple! (For more info, go to:

It's a Hit!

44 hits yesterday!  Thanx for reading, everyone!  Whether you are new to my blog-o-sphere or a faithful follower for the past week, month, year or the two and a half years....Thank you and Merry Christmas, everyone! Drive safely this holiday season. (I have a duty to my admiring -- or "not so much" public now.) One thing I have realized that being a writer will not necessarily make you popular.  As I try to find my voice, I aspire to integrity at all times and to never misuse my power.  However, in light of the recent violence in downtown New London, right here outside our windows and the unfair way people, myself included, are often treated -- it is very important to find your voice.  Some are blessed with the "gift of gab," you know: CHARISMA and highly persuasive powers.  Unfortunately I am not one of them and during this Christmas season, I would like to offer the gift of forgiveness for all those of you who have not taken me seriously or believed me in the past. (And anyone who may not believe me in the future, as well.)  My blog is my voice. The pen IS mightier than the sword.  Don't mess with the press. And never, never, never mess with somebody  who you thought was a nobody.  She just might turn out to be Somebody! (What're you crazy? Think you got problems? Are you kiddin' me? I don't get no respect!!!... * * * :)

Monday, December 6, 2010

Be Back Tomorrow!

Figuratively speaking!  Be back with more findings on my latest series, "THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL.  "Tunnel of Darkness" describes my bout with depression over the last decade. Circumstantial? or inherent?  In other words, am I really a psycho? or did the psycho do this to me? (my circumstances, I mean.) THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL will also relate to the recent violence right outside my window here in downtown New London. And what the townsfolk have decided to do about it. If the success of "Festival of Lights & Song" is any indication, I feel we have decided "it is better to light one candle than to curse the darkness." Or, in my case, light two! in case you happen to be driving by in the evening. (Just don't watch movies on "Lifetime!") (There is only one thing left to do. Get busy! I must carry on. Land ho!)


Never mess with somebody who you thought was a nobody. She just might turn out to be Somebody! (P.S. Did ya get the memo???...* * * :)

Anne Hathaway in Marchesa

Georgina Chapman admits that wearing her own gowns makes her happy. Judging by the stars that crave her romantic creations, she's not the only one.
Q: Is it easier to design a dress from scratch or adapt one from the runway?
A: Unless an actress makes a choice right after a show, a look may have been around the block by the time she decides to wear it. So we often end up doing gowns just for the star. Women like Annie and Jennifer (Lopez) can be so unwavering in their choices that I get very nervous, I wind up making other dresses as back up. I could never be that certain!
Q: When it comes to making these gowns, are there considerations we may not be aware of?
A: You have to choose a fabric knowing the wearer will be sitting for a long time. If the dress is elaborate, we show her how to prep her date to help her into the car.

Red Dress

Annie picked the dress herself. No stylists or changes later. I made a red bandage dress just in case, but she was right about this one.  -- Georgina Chapman (for Anne Hathaway)

Friendly Competition!

Coming Soon....On Saturday, May 14, 2011, BOARDWALK TAG & CRAFT SALE, Ocean Beach Park, New London, CT.  The second annual, sponsored by "Save Ocean Beach" (SOB). 9-3pm. $30 per booth space, $10 refundable. RAINDATE: May 21. Deadline to RSVP booth space: May 9, 2011. For more info, go to:
 or call: 860-447-3031, ext 132. All proceeds used for SOB projects at Ocean Beach Park. Come and be part of a good cause, come and see me sister Kelley! (Stonington Printmakers Society! WHO IS THE NEXT GREAT ARTIST? You decide!


Coming soon to MAAP: "Girl Looks Outside"...For more info, go to:

Soon to come in late January 2011: Photos of my latest artwork including:

"Lady in Blue," "Carousel," and "Blue Elephant" (just started today) series of CAROUSEL SCENES.
Next: "The Hills Are Alive" is a painting of the view looking South from my living room window in early October.  "Girl Looks Outside" is fini! Up Next: OILS OF BLOCK ISLAND (but I'm not telling you what yet!)

"Girl Looks Outside" is inspired by "Beatrice at the Door," Oil on Canvas, by Harry Hoffman (1871-1964.) Two artists met ("hooked up") as boarders at the "Flo Gris" -- and later, got married in 1910. They moved to "Chuluota" House, which means "beautiful view."  (Who, me?  Nooo! The Lieutenant River!!!...* * * :)

(There is only one thing left to do. Get busy! I must carry on. Land ho!!!...* * * :)


She was curled up in a small place with darkness all around her. The walls began to close, pressing in on all sides, making her smaller and smaller, swallowing her in painful pieces while she tried to scream, but nothing came out. There was no one with her in the darkness, no noise as the gray walls slowly drew shut, collapsing inward in a rush until there was nothing left of who she was but fear and darkness.  (FROM -- what else? HOT PURSUIT by Christina Skye. Bantam Dell, a div of Random House. New York, NY. Copyright 2003.  Free at the NL Public Library. Tunnel of Darkness, January 2000 through 2008, and coming out through 2009...resulting in PTSD in early 2010. "Claustrophobic dreams:" see blog post of early 2010, featuring the vocab word: CLOISTER. (What're you, crazy? Think you got problems? Are you kiddin' me?  I don't get no respect!!1...* * * :)


Link to article in "The Day" is "up and coming!"


More to come soon!  Links to be provided, in the wake of the recent violence to hit the City of New London.  NEW LONDON ANTI-VIOLENCE ACTIVIST GROUP to meet tonight, Monday, December 6th, at 6pm at the BEAN & LEAF CAFE on 13 Washington Street. (Off State Street in downtown New London.)  Be there!

Thursday, December 2, 2010

Gossip or Snitch?

GOSSIP OR SNITCH? For the past ten years since I have lived in New London, moving here in early 2000, I find there to be a strange set of morals happening here.  Why is it better to share anecdotes about your neighbor's personal life and mishaps, but "I'm not getting involved." How is spreading slander and half truths about someone better than ratting out wrongdoing?  In the recent past, I found myself faced with a Situation where I had to "get them" or they would get me. As time went on, I eventually realized that God had placed me into a Situation for a reason and I knew that my only way out was to be a "snitch." If you have watched the tell all TV shows, lately such as Dr. Phil and Oprah, confession is good for the soul.  You have to find your voice whether through the blog-o-sphere or TV.  We must not live in fear.  We must not be afraid to call our protectors, the police when is something is amiss. Let's take back our streets!  Let's stop placing the blame! (You'll never know when you might need a favor.) Let's not call me a "snitch." Instead, call me a "b---h!"

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

28 Hits!

28 hits yesterday, everyone, in case you're wondering! Happy Holidays!  The local downtown areas in Southeastern Connecticut all seem to have holiday strolls.  The Downtown Option is a good one.  Consider doing some or all of your Christmas shopping in downtown New London (Fair Trade Co. is a great place for reasonably priced gifts on Bank Street), downtown Mystic which is pretty in winter, and downtown Niantic as well.  Be sure to check out ALL of the local art museums, which abound in almost every town along the shoreline, for more unique gifts. (And to support those "starving artists" among us.)  As for more, you will just have to wait until next week, perhaps Monday or Tuesday! Yesterday was a breathtakingly beautiful day. (Don't let anyone else's bad attitude spoil your day.) If the weather sucks like today, too often, I guess I will be forced to take it inside again, with OASIS ("Girl Looks Outside" is almost done!) and a spin-off of "The Peacable Kingdom" is up next. As well, "Blue Elephant," third in the CAROUSEL SCENE series.  I have a whole new project lined up for next year, which involves both art and writing, but I'm not going to tell you what yet! You will just have to wait. Merry Christmas, everyone! (For an artist and writer, just remember, everything is grist for the mill.)

Monday, November 29, 2010


UP NEXT: "He Had It Coming!" Also, check out "Fool's Gold" for the latest.  Up Next for "Fools:" FLYING.  Where is Debbie flying? Will she stay? Or will she come back? What will she come back to?  And, ahhh, will Debbie ever make a comeback? For more info, go to:

ALSO UP NEXT: "Girl Looks Outside" and "The Peacable Kingdom." (Coming soon to MAAP. For more info, go to:

Keeeeep reading, everyone! And...THIIIIINK SUNSHINE!!!...* * * :) (You can tell I got a good night's sleep last night. And for once, in a long time, didn't wake up with a headache.)


"Can I ask you a personal question, Miles? Why are you so into Pinot?"

"I don't know. It's a hard grape to you know. It's thin-skineed, temperamental, ripens early. It's not a survivor, like Cabernet, which can just grow anywhere and thrive even when it's neglected. No, Pinot needs constant care and attention. In fact, it can only grow in these really specific, tucked away corners of the world. And only the most patient and nurturing of growers can do it, really. Only if somebody really takes the time to understand Pinot's potential, can then coax it into its fullest expression. And then, I mean, ah, its flavors, they're just the most haunting and brilliant and thrilling and subtle, ancient on the planet."

(From SIDEWAYS, Fox Searchlight Pictures, Starring Paul Giamatti and Thomas Haden Church. Directed by Michael London. 2004.) -- LOVED IT!!!...* * * :)

(1) Dionysia: (L, fr. Gk, neut. pl of dionysios,  of, Dionysus, fr. Dionysos): ancient Greek festival observances held in seasonal cycles in honor of Dionysus; esp: such observances marked by dramatic performances.

(2) Dionysus: the Greek god of wine: BACCHUS

(3) Bacchus: n. [L, fr, Gk Bakchos]: the Greek god of wine - called also Dionysus

(4) abandon: vt [ME abandounen, fr, MF abandoner, fr, abandon, n. surrender, fr. a bandon in one's power] 1: to give up with the intent of never again claiming a right or interest in  2: to withdraw from often in the face of danger or encroachment 3: to withdraw protection, support or help from 4: to give (oneself) over unrestrainedly to a feeling or emotion.

(5) abandonment: n. syn 1: ABANDON, DESERT, FORSAKE, shared meaning element: to give up completely. ABANDON tends to suggest complete disinterest in the fate of what is given up. DESERT implies a relationship (as of occupancy or guardianship); it can suggest desolationor culpability. FORSAKE implies a breaking of a close association by repudiation or renunciation.

(6) abandon: n. 1: a thorough yielding to natural impulses 2: ENTHUSIASM, EXUBERANCE syn, see UNCONSTRAINT.

SOURCE: Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary, Copyright 1973 by G and C Merrian Co., Springfield, MA. For: Dr. Charles E. Murphy CREATIVE WRITING AWARD, Presented to Denise Hickey, Palmer Memorial School - 1974. Grade 6. (I think one of my distant cousins may have a photo somewhere...)P.S. Made my 6th Grade Teacher, Mr. Wiberg, stay after school so I could finish my story, "The Secret of Cherrygrove Manor." Things don't come easy! --- SIDEWAYS, among quite a selection of other DVD movies, is available, FREE, for one week borrowing from the GROTON PUBLIC LIBRARY. Check out the new TeenScape section!

Red Carpet

ANNE HATHAWAY  Always a standout on the Red Carpet, the actress picked a pair of discreet (by Oscars standards) cushion-cut diamond earrings from Harry Winston to go with her ruby red Marchesa gown. These dazzlers, surrounded by a delicate micro-pave diamond border, added up to more than 12 brilliant carats. Only one other touch was needed: Hathaway wore a wide diamond eternity band to match the sparkle. (I've got to see this movie. I've got to see it; I've got to see it! Are we going? We're going; aren't we? If we don't go; I'm going to be mad!!!... * * * :)


By Adam Lambert

Hey, slow it down! Whatta ya want from me?
Whatta ya want from me?
Yeah, I'm afraid! Whatta ya want from me?
Whatta ya want from me?

There might have been a time When I would give myself away -
Oooh, once upon a time, I didn't give a damn!
But now...Here we are...So whatta ya want from me?
Whatta ya want from me?

Just don't give up! I'm workin' it out!
Please...don't give in! I won't let you down!
It messed me up! Need a second to breathe!
Just keep comin' around!
Hey, whatta ya want from me?
Whatta ya want from me?
Whatta ya want from me?'s plain to see (plain to see) -
That baby, you're beautiful!
And there's nothing wrong with you!
(Nothing wrong with you!)
It's me...I'm a freak (yeah...)
But thanx for lovin' me!
Cause you're doin' it perfectly!
(It perfectly...!)

Yeah, there might have been a time
When I would let you slip away -
I wouldn't even try -
But I think you could save my life!

Just don't give up! I'm workin' it out!
Please don't give in! I won't let you down!
It messed me up! Need a second to breathe!
Just keep comin' around!
Hey! Whatta ya want from me?

Just don't give up! I'm workin' it out!
Please don't give in! I won't let you down!
It messed me up! Need a second to breathe!
Just keep comin' around!
Hey! Whatta ya want from me?
(Whatta ya want from me?)
Whatta ya want from me?
(Whatta ya want from me?)
Whatta ya want from me, ooohh!

(Hmmm...Wonder how the acoustics are at Ocean Beach?  Not saying I'm good.  Just enjoy it, that's all.  As long as no one's around...)  See you at the beeeeaaach!

Shop Downtown Mystic!

This is a plug for my friends of the family, Bob and Ester Cooper.  I know them through my sister Kelley and her mate, Brian. I've spent many vacations with them on Block Island in the summer and some holidays, as well!  I would like to thank Bob and Ester once again, for coming to my booth at the Mystic Art Festival last August and for offering their support of my latest endeavor! Be sure to check out their shop in downtown Mystic this holiday season, The Cooper Shoppe! For more info, go to:

(On one Christmas Eve with the Coopers, I received a Brighton bracelet from Bob & Ester -- but the value to me was that it made me feel included, like part of the family!)  Merry Christmas to the Cooper family!


of Lights and Song!

Around the world

Saturday, Dec. 4th, 3-5:30pm
New London, CT

Reindeer and Elf Procession at 3pm
(from the Firehouse)
Multicultural Music and Dance
Visit Santa at the Nathan Hale Schoolhouse
Christmas Tree Lighting on the Parade Plaza
"Windows to the World" Decorated Storefronts

"Downtown New London dresses up for Christmas!"

Come and check it out! It's beautiful!

or call (860)444-2489

Hope to see you there!
Happy Holidays!

Saturday, November 27, 2010

Sneak Previews

COMING SOON..."More on the Myers-Briggs Test Instrument?" (INFP) "Yeah, you know: I never find perfection."  INFP, that's me! Introverted, Intuition, Feeling, Perceiving.  As you get older, they say the weaker functions, the third and fourth become stronger.  Does that mean the first two functions become weaker? (Not in my case.)...and Previews of my artwork to come.  More on: "Girl Looks Outside." (almost done, finally)...and more LYRICS to my favorite songs...and the last few chapters of "Fool's Gold," as well as follow-up stories and poems from my past! There will be more on Diet and Excercise, as those are the principles on which my blog, "Denise Dances" is originally founded, of course. And that because God has blessed me, I feel it my duty to help you.  (You know...Does it come as no now...that I mean what I say...when I say...that I would consider a return to perfect health payment enough???...* * * :) (She's baaaaack!)

See You All on -- Yes, Monday!

26 hits this past Monday!  Thank you all and hope everyone had a good Thanksgiving.  If you watched "Smallville" on the CW which aired the same episode for two weeks in a row, you can see that the holidays aren't all peaches and cream for many families.  However, I can truly say that I feel I got the "Currier and Ives" Thanksgiving this year!  If you watched "Smallville" to the end this past Thursday evening or the one before that, you can see that, although the family members originally struggled and clashed egoes, there truly was a happy, peaceful ending.  ("And to all a good night!") Until next time, Denise

From now on, I plan to update my posts to "Denise Dances" and "Fool's Gold" weekly, live from the Groton Library.  I feel too much computer use stifles my creativity, creates headaches, and other conflicts! After stockpiling my posts all week, I will have time to decide whether I truly want to "publish" or not! For "MAAP," photos of my latest artwork to come soon, I promise!

From the New London Library, which is here in my back yard; I can more easily use the computers for email checking and web surfing. (As the computer kicks you off after a half hour -- and yes, that ongoing scrutiny from the new next-door neighbors!  "The more things change, the more they remain the same!" -- To you, Lynne!)

Monday, November 22, 2010

Be Sure to Visit...

...the Burrows Farm, Corner Route 117 and Route 1 /Fort Hill Road in Groton, CT. Take I-95, Exit 88. Directly across from the Groton Town Hall and Fitch Middle School.  There you will see: Buster the Duck and his new friend, the big white dog (his buddy passed away last winter), another big white dog, a white hound dog, two ponies (or are they miniature horses? or donkeys?) and a brown billy goat! The rams are put to pasture behind the Groton Library today.  Be sure to visit Sam the Ram (black), Jerry (brown) and the assorted wooly black, brown and white fellas and ewes. (How do I know their names? WORD OF MOUTH: The farm owner is Warren Burrows, part time surgeon at Pequot Health Center, where the caring staff has helped me return to perfect health in my recent past.) Divers chickens abound as well as a rooster, but I've had enough of those! (Coming Soon to MAAP! For more info, go to: ...But I'm not going to tell you yet!  Merry Christmas, Everyone! (Denise...Denise Dances...2010!)

Outside Time

I need some outside time!  The sun just came out and if I don't get my fresh air walk today, I probably won't sleep tonight.  Where will my walk take me this afternoon?  Probably past the rams at Burrows Farm -- to Dairy Queen. There goes my diet!  Stay safe, indulge a bit and see you back here after the Thanxgiving Holiday! 

It Had to be Hugh

A collective sigh of relief came from ABC when the ratings for the 81st Annual Academy Awards (broadcast live from the Kodak Theater in Los Angeles) arrived. The telecast was coming off an all-time low in 2008, blamed largely on the lack of blockbusters. The box office potency of this year's contenders wasn't much better, leading to prognostications that the audience would be even smaller. But 13 per cent more viewers tuned in to see host Hugh Jackman sing and dance his way through a revamped show. Is an encore in the works? Here's how the telecast fared in recent years.

2009: BEST PICTURE: Slumdog Millionnaire (36.3M Viewers) (Guardian Angels came to my rescue! Started drawing, MAAP and painting.)

2008: BEST PICTURE: No Country for Old Men (32.0M) (The tides turned against me. Started my blog, "Denise Dances.")

2007: BEST PICTURE: The Departed (40.1M) (Began the uphill journey to returning to perfect health. Paula passed away. Dad admitted to Bayview. Neighbors misbehaving.)

2006: BEST PICTURE: Crash (38.9M) (I crashed.)

2005: BEST PICTURE: Million Dollar Baby (42.1M) (Conditions changed for the worst at my job.)

2004: BEST PICTURE: Lord of the Rings: Return of the King (43.5M) (Things started to change, at first, just in my personal life.)

2003: BEST PICTURE: Chicago (33.0M) (My niece Julia was born on my birthday. I saw this movie with Paula at Mystic Art Cinemas)

2002: BEST PICTURE: A Beautiful Mind (41.8M) (Got depressed. Got hired at Shop Rite. Got sent on Cruise to Central America in the Western Carribbean by my family for my 40th birthday!) (Got SSD.)

2001: BEST PICTURE: Gladiator (42.9M) (Met Paula -- This was one of her fave movies)

2000: BEST PICTURE: American Beauty (46.3M) (Moved to New London, CT)

1999: BEST PICTURE: Shakespeare in Love (45.6M) (After several stints in temping and substitute teaching, I attempted to teach High School English at Ellis Harvard Regional Vocational Technical School in Danielson, also a temporary one-year position - but I didn't make it through the year!)

1998: BEST PICTURE: Titanic (55.3) (I was "full time" ballroom dancing at Arthur Murray and worked as a one year temporary Special Education Aide at Fitch Middle School in Groton)

1997: BEST PICTURE: The English Patient (40.1M) (Substitute Teaching)

1996: BEST PICTURE: Braveheart (44.9M) (I only saw the rendition by the young, male French figure skater at the time)

1995: BEST PICTURE: Forrest Gump (48.3M) ("And that's all I have to say about that!"
(Pursued Master's degree in Education)

1994: BEST PICTURE: Schindler's List (45.1M) (Still temping)

1993: BEST PICTURE: Unforgiven (45.7M) (Don't let that be YOU this holiday season!!!...* * * :)
(Adult Education art classes at Montville High School gave way to full-time temping.)

(SOURCE: Nielsen Media Research)

A Lesson on Love

1 Corinthians 13

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels,
And have not Love;
I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries,
and all knowledge; and though I have all faith,
So that I could remove mountains, and have not Love,
I am nothing.

And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor,
and though I give my body to be burned,
and have not Love, it profiteth me nothing.

Love suffereth long, and is kind;
Love envieth not; Love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up.
Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own,
Is not easily provoked,
Thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity,
But rejoiceth in the truth;
Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

Love never faileth:
But whether there be prophecies, they shall fail;
Whether there be tongues, they shall cease;
Whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

For we know in part and we prophecy in part.
But when that which is perfect is come,
then that which is in part shall be done away.

When I was a child, I spake as a child,
I understood as a child, I thought as a child:
But when I became a man, I put away childish things.

For now we see through a glass, darkly;
But then face to face:
Now I know in part;
But then shall I know even as also I am known.

And now abideth Faith, Hope, Love,
these three;
But the greatest of these is

"I'm Hungry!"

Time for lunch ("en mi caro.") Be back in ten.  Vist the rams, too.  More to come. "A Lesson in Love," It Had to Be Hugh, THE LAST DAY. Remember: You read it here.

The Effect of Diet on Depression

DIET DEPRESSION A study by Felice N. Jacka, a scientist at the University of Melbourne in Australia, found that the Western style diet, featuring processed meats, pizza, fried foods, white bread, sugar and beer -- increased the odds of depression by 52 %. Surprisingly, a diet of fruit, salad, fish, tofu, beans, nuts, yogurt, and red wine did not seem to prevent depression. What does help?  The article recommends a diet of vegetables, fruit, grass-fed meat, fish and whole grains, an eating pattern that reduces the odds of depression and anxiety disorders by 35 % and 32 % respectively and independent of physical activity and other lifestyle factors). NUTRITION IS EVERYTHING! (From "Mood News" by Lois B. Morris, Allure Magazine, August 2010. ("You read too much.")

What's Your Beef?

FATIGUE  Lean steak Beef may pick you up from a slump by supplying your body with IRON, which helps red blood cells bring energizing oxygen to all of your organs and tissues. Nine to 16 % of women in the United States are anemic, but many more are iron-deficient, Somer says. "A standard anemia test won't pick up on iron deficiency, so ask your doctor for a ferritin test. If your level is below 20, you are deficient in iron." Your body absorbs iron more efficiently from animal protein than it does from vegetable sources. (FROM: Self Magazine, "Eat to Beat" by Leah McLaughlin) The article suggests lean cuts of steak such as filet mignon or sirloin and poultry such as turkey and chicken and seafood such as clams and shrimp. "Then use your newfound energy to cook up more healing meals! (On a budget?  I have found that with the crockpot and accompanying recipe book, I can cook awesome beef stew with some beef chuck and vegetables purchased at the local grocery store. For a quick stop, I have also found the Wendy's Restaurant chain to have the best and most healthy burgers, thus far. For lunch on most days, I find the deli counter at the local grocery store's Italian roast beef as well as turkey breast to make awesome sandwiches! For frozen dinners (in order to get the variety you need at the right price as a single person household), I find Marie Callendar (meat, vegetable and potato dishes) and Stouffer's (meat and potato only) to be the most satisfying in the situation at hand.

Girl Looks Outside

COMING SOON TO MAAP: "Girl Looks Outside," Oil on Canvas," 16" x 20" by Denise Hickey.  Inspired by my visit to the "Flo Gris" in September during FREE admission week to New London residents. (See Blog Post of Sept.  16, 2010, RETROSPECTIVE.) Two artists met as boarders at The Gris and got married, thus inspiring "Beatrice at the Door," (circa 1910), Oil on Canvas, by Harry Hoffman (1871-1964). "Chuluota" House means beautiful view.  Who, me? Nooo! The Lieutenant River!!!...* * * :)  For more info, go to:

I Ain't Afraid of No Ghosts!

Still don't believe me? For further info regarding James van Praagh, co-producer of the hit TV Series "Ghost Whisperer," (starring Jennifer Love Hewitt), send a SASE to:

7985 Santa Monica Blvd., Suite 109-135
West Hollywood, CA 90046

ectoplasm: ektos, "outside" or "external" and plasma, "something molded or formed." A colorless, odorless substance which weighs about 8.6 grams per liter (less than one ounce). It's found in most people, but especially developed in mediums and can be seen in a dark setting, as it is sensitive to light.

Radio Broadcast of ECSO Concert

On Sunday, January 16, 2011 at 3pm
There will be a broadcast of the ECSO Concert at The Garde Theater
which took place on Saturday evening, November 20th, 2010.
On WMNR 94.5 fm Fine Arts Radio!
"Memories & Echoes"

Pay special attention to "Ritual" by Schnittke. Silence, foreboding - Drama! Van de Vate, featured female composer's "Gema Jawa" I found to be beautiful, sad and mournful. (Both pieces feel to me, reflections of my life?) The Violin Concerto in D Minor by Sibelius, I found to be piercing and complex. Dvorak's "Symphony No. 8" - Cheerful enough but went on forever with too many different movements for me (also mirrors my life). Stay tuned in January! Keep your dial turned on to 94.5 Radio on Sunday afternoons in 2011.

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Hit Monday!

28 Hits to my Blog-o-Sphere last Monday!  This is my Public Service Announcement to STAY SAFE, EVERYONE!

(Stay home - or stay over! Unless YOU want to be "pulled over!")
Not only is it against the law,
but it could be FATAL.

For the Diabetics among us:
Limit your sugar intake:
Choose between sweets or white starch or alcohol!
Three different types of sugar! Choose one!
Take it from someone with experience.
Have a big hunk of protein with the sweet of your choice.
Vegs are all good! (even potatoes)
Have that coffee and dessert for that late day slump instead!

And finally, always remember to visit those loved ones
among you who are home bound or in long term or permanent care
outside the home.

Happy Thanksgiving, Everyone!
Don't deprive!
Don't over-indulge!



Monday, November 15, 2010

More on the MBTI

Sounds like the Subway, doesn't it?  Take the MBTI...! For more info, go to:
Under "Take the Myers Briggs Type Indicator instrument," click on the link for:
"MBTI Master Practitioner Referral Network." For a list of certified practitioners in your area.
The "Center for Applications of Psychological Type" (CAPT) offers the MBTI instrument on-line. Next, a certified professional interprets your results and follows up with a one hour phone consultation.
Click on the link, "Take the MBTI" here on the above website.
To take the MBTI Complete without assistance from a certified professional, go to:
You fill out a multiple choice test.
Follow the self-guided feedback system.
A follow up consultation with a certified professional is recommended, but not essential.
Most importantly, KNOW THYSELF! Don't let anyone coerce you into trying to be something you are not. Or to make you believe you are not "good enough" just the way you are.  'Cause it ain't true!
To become a certified administrator of the MBTI, click on the link in above website, "Using Type as a Professional," if you are interested in helping others use their talents to achieve their God given hopes and dreams.

7th Annual Local Authors' Night

SEVENTH ANNUAL LOCAL AUTHORS' NIGHT Wednesday, Nov. 17, 2010 at 7pm. Groton Public Library. "Must Go!" Why?  I'll give you a clue to my latest project: Author Ann Haywood Leal ("A Finders Keepers Place") and others will be discussing their most recently published books. Books available for signing and purchase after the program. Refreshments served. FREE and open to the public. No registration required. For more info, call the Groton Library at (860)441-6750.

Teenscape! at the G. Library

GRAND OPENING OF TEENSCAPE the grand opening of Teenscape, the Groton Public Library's new area for teens, was celebrated on November 10 at 6pm. Reps from the Community Foundation of Eastern Connecticut were the guests of honor. In 2008, a generous donation was granted to the CFEC to the tune of 3.6 Million from the Estate of Edmund O'Brien, the largest gift ever in its history. Thirteen libraries in southeastern Connecticut were each awarded $100,000 and asked to submit a proposal that would "maximize the library's value to its residents, especially those who can most benefit but may not currently be utilizing services." TEENSCAPE is the result of this generous grant. "Long live Uncle Bud!" (whom I am happy to have known from 1998-2004.)

Art: A Viable Inspiration!

INSPIRATIONAL THOUGHT: A medium receives thoughts, impressions and knowledge without forethought. It comes from the spirit world, but the personality of the spirit is not impressed upon the receiver. In many cases, a band or group of souls impress an earthly recipient with inspirational thought. They can impress the person to write a song or paint a scene. Many great artists and musicians were mediums, as well as great scientists and yes, even doctors...of the past. ("...a cold, disconnected person from a life too full of emotional pain to deal with." -- Dr. Sweets, "Bones," FOX TV, Thursdays at 8pm).


10/12/10 (Tues.) "Field Notes" - (OASIS) - "Girl Looks Outside"

Lieutenant River - beyond the horizon, the proverbial bend in the River. Fall - crunching of leaves underfoot. Early fall - leaves just starting to turn color.

Model: Denise, Oct. 2009, grounds of "the Gris" by the "L" River.

Dress & Figure: "A Bar at the Folies-Berger" by Edouard Manet (1881-1882) Oil on Canvas, (37 3/4 x 51 1/5") or (96 x 130 cm) "the barmaid's resigned expression" - end of Golden Age in Paris.

The building model: Marshfield House - "portico," and the "Side Porch" of the Florence Griswold House.

(1) Paint in the "background:" trees, marsh grass, river.
(2) Let dry.
(3) Visit "the Gris" week of Oct. 18-22. (M-F)
(4) Photograph or sketch the "Marshfield House."

(5) Week of Oct. 18-22: Paint in The Portico. "the Girl" (me!). in "costume."

End Quote: GIRL LOOKS OUTSIDE...Coming Soon to MAAP! (For more info, go to:
(On Friday, Nov. 12, I had 22 hits! Now, if you've been reading this, you have no excuse...not to go and see my art-work at THE HYGIENIC on Bank in downtown New London, CT or the Ocean Beach boardwalk in May...or...the Mystic Art Festival!!!...* * * :)

Art: Another Viable Alternative

For more artwork of those fine feathered friends, especially now that Winter is almost here, please go to: Before I go on, don't forget to feed the birds this winter! Buy a simple outdoor birdfeeder at the Odd Job store or at Benny's or the local True Value store.  Most grocery stores sell bags of wild birdseed.  Chances are, you or somebody you know has a backyard where you can hang the feeder of your choice and watch your fine friends feed all winter. I met Carol at the Mystic Art Festival last summer, although she was way down at the other end of the festival on the opposite side of the bridge.  I admired her work and you can, too. Check out her website and order your boxed bird notecards, just in time for Christmas! ART: A VIABLE ALTERNATIVE. (Who says I don't work???...* * * :)

More Art: Viable Alternatives

You've seen Olivia's Bird Illustrations.  Now it's time to -- "Save Ocean Beach!" Coming Soon, the Boardwalk Tag & Craft Sale, at Ocean Beach Park on Neptune Avenue in New London, CT.  9-3pm on Saturday, May 14, 2011.  If interested in selling or buying, contact Save Ocean Beach (SOB). For more info, go to: where you can still see my Mural of Long Island Sound (in 7 Panels). Inspired by Summer 2009 at Ocean Beach park. FOR SALE on Sat., May 14, 2011, 9-3pm, on the Ocean Beach Boardwalk. Mark your calendars! UP NEXT: Hygienic "Salon des Independents" Winter Arts Festival in January 2011.  You will be able to see: "Wish You Were Here," Panel #7. Hygienic Sixth Crossing: JURIED EXHIBIT: April 2011 "Girl Looks Outside?" (almost done!) UP UP NEXT: Hope to see you at the Mystic Art Festival, August 2011! For more info, go to:
(Denise...Denise Dances...2011!) Oppressed? (Yes.) Distressed? (At times.) Depressed? (No mo'!)

ART: A Viable Alternative

ART: A Viable Alternative? For those of you who are not familiar with her, she has been seen on the CBS Evening News.  Her name is Olivia and she is just eleven years old.  Moved with compassion for the wildlife in her lifelong summer vacation area, the Gulf region of the United States; she began drawing the birds who call her vacation home, home port. Combining her love of art and wild birds; $25,000 has been donated in her name to the Audabon Society, among many other venues. For more info, go to: and see Olivia's Bird Illustrations. Friend Olivia on Facebook, where you will see: SAVE THE GULF: Olivia's Bird Illustrations.  You will see that this young girl paints her endangered feathered friends -- with color and with love! Now that's what I call a Success Story!!!... * * * :)


More like, ENDANGERED.  Who, me? No! the birds!  THREATENED BY OIL SPILL IN THE GULF  Brown Pelicans: Louisiana's state bird; only recently removed from the endangered species list.
Sea Turtles: Five of the seven remaining species  reside in the Gulf.
Shellfish and Crabs: The estuaries of the Gulf are breeding grounds for 40 % of the aquatic life in the Gulf.
Nesting and migrating Shore Birds: Piping Plovers, Sandpipers, and Oystercatchers nest on beaches and barrier islands in Louisiana.
DOLPHINS: Several dolphin species inhabit the northern Gulf area.
North Atlantic Blue Fin Tuna: Will return in the Spring to spawn in the warm Gulf water flowing from the Mississippi River.
UP NEXT: Art: A Viable Alternative.

Friday, November 12, 2010

Coming Soon to MAAP!

Coming Soon to MAAP. (As soon as I can buy film to put in my camera, take pix, and develop them!) CAROUSEL SCENES: "Lady in Blue" and "Carousel." (Not yet started: "Blue Elephant.") "The Hills Are Alive," a fall view outside my window, is fini! "Girl Looks Outside" is in the works! A Christmas Scene is on board -- but I'm not gonna tell you what! For more info, go to:

Up Next: Backing!

UP NEXT: More on the Myers-Briggs MBTI Test Instrument.  I am adamant about this test, because had it been administered to me, either in high school or through one of my many doctors and therapists here in New London, I may have discovered what I want to be when I grow up a lot sooner! Why, you ask, did not any of these many experts I was forced to see during the last decade of my life, administer the MBTI? M-O-N-E-Y! Remember, Medicare pays 85 % of doctor and hospital costs -- and they take forever to review each case.  Who in their right mind would want to deal with that? In talking with others, I can see that they have received much better healthcare and treatment than I have, being a "victim of the system." However, I can feel good that I made the acquaintance of Paula, as have you, in this journey, and I feel she was "on the money" about what I should be doing:  "You'll be selling your paintings in Mystic." God has blessed me by rescuing me from the trials of the Public Healthcare System and other trials, so I feel it my duty to inform you of what went wrong in my life in order to insure a better future for THE CHILDREN.(Noooo, not backstabbing! "Backing!!!"...* * * :)

Eastern Connecticut Symphony Orchestra!


"Memories and Echoes"

Saturday, Nov. 20, 2010, 8:00 Sharp!
Garde Arts Center, New London, CT

Including the Composers: Schnittke, Van de Vate (featured female composer);
Sibelius and Dvorak

Guest Soloist

Sponsored by The City of New London and The Town of Groton


Come and meet the latest conductor,
Toshiyuki Shimada!

Where Ya Been?

Guess you all don't come around here no' mo'.  Did I scare you away with my harsh portrayal of Debbie's bad temper and familial treatment in my "Fool's Gold" book blog, the story of my life in NYC in the late 1980s? There is a bit more to come. For more info, check out:
right now!  I have just a few more short chapters left in "Fool's Gold." But I want to give you more, you Faithful Readers who have seen me through thick and thin since staring my Blog-o-Sphere in May 2008!  UP NEXT on "Fool's Gold:" The Conclusion.  "Are we there yet?" And Up Next as well: Poems from Corporate HQ in New York City...Poems from my college years at Eastern Connecticut State University (1984-87)...and a short story, "The Single Mom of Cactus County."  Thanx for being faithful.  I hope you enjoy it! (Oh...a few more photos, too.  Meet the cast!)

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Take the MBTI!

WHERE TO TAKE THE MYERS-BRIGGS MBTI Instrument  Is it valid? Is it reliable? (from University of New Haven, Master's in Teaching Program, Science Trimester ("Measurement and Assessment"), Southeastern Campus -- Mitchell College, New London, CT) 

Consultants and therapists who are certified to administer the MBTI are available on-line and through the following links.

More links to come in the future!

What to expect: Fill out a multiple choice questionnaire. Results are given in person or by phone, unless you choose to take the MBTI Complete, on-line instead. A follow up analysis with a certified professional is NOT required. Results: MBTI Profile Report via the web or in printed form. CONFIDENTIAL.  To learn how to become a certified administrator of the MBTI Instrument, go to: Using Type as a Professional (LINK TO COME SOON!)

Monday, November 8, 2010

Blame it on Dr. Freud!

22 hits on Friday, Nov. 5th!  I wish I could "take the Fifth."  But, as seen on OPRAH last week, 200 men came forward to admit the horrible truth: as small children, each man was sexually abused, not just once, but over a period of time, continually.  Not by a stranger, but by an adult male in authority or a relative, by someone whom they trusted, respected, and feared, as well.  Any kind of abuse, perceived or real, has a profound effect on a person's life.  Abuse of any kind can cause problems for us, as adults, in career or vocation and in relationships.  By stepping forward and speaking out, these men have made themselves vulnerable once again. Tears do not lie.  Hopefully, all of these 200 men and all others who feel they have suffered abuse at the hands of trusted adults in any way, can find their voice and their time to heal, as they hope to protect others, especially those most vulnerable: CHILDREN.

Thursday, November 4, 2010



My beautiful sister Karen and my lovely niece Julia
for good fun and simple times,
Fall fun, Holidaze
and summers at the beach,
Not just Rocky Neck (pictured here),
But Ocean Beach, as well!