Denise Dances: A Return to Perfect Health - Body, Mind & Spirit!

Friday, December 9, 2011

61 hits!

61 hits last Wednesday! Thanx Everyone! Merry Christmas! Enjoy "Pretty Papers" by Willie Nelson. And have a Happy New Year! With love & best wishes, Denise.

262 - Willie Nelson - Pretty Papers - cover by George P

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

37 hits!

37 hits -- so far! -- today. OK, so what do I want for Christmas? Number 1 on my list: To see my niece (esp more often in the future) without "distractions." Number 2: That would be a safe place to live...or at least to be safe in the place where I live now! "Distractions" of the past include: Apparently, I was watched on the surveillance cameras by certain residents of my apartment building last Christmas evening, as I walked through the doors of the lobby with a bag full of Christmas presents. A certain resident followed me the next morning, as I arrived home from the Crystal Mall, asking "Did you go out?" But I ignored her and walked away. For most of 2011, I have been relentlessly pursued by said resident, a senior who, it has been obvious to me, in her appearance, habits, and conversation, has a drug habit. Sometimes, God works in mysterious ways to "get the bad guys!" However, I say she is "bipolar" and needs a good psych doctor with conscientious medication monitoring. I feel that she is self-medicating for a reason.This is just my opinion.)"You give your opinion." -- R.C. WHAT DO I WANT FOR CHRISTMAS? More time spent with those who are dear to me. A safe place to live. And privacy to have relationships and actually---a quiet, normal life!


COMING SOON to MAAP! "Crocuses," a colored pencil drawing rendered last Spring 2011. ALSO, more scenes from the Gallery at City Hall, Opening Reception on New London Art Nite last May 2011. And now, my friends, it is time to break for lunch. Time out for a coffee at the corner store, and hopefully, to visit the rams and ewes! Not bah humbug!FOR MORE INFO, go to: Sometime this afternoon.


(You mean, there's more?)UP NEXT: "Duck Pond" (SCENES OF MINI GOLF COURSE) is coming to the HYGIENIC "Salon des Independants" Winter Arts Festival, kicking off during the last weekend of January 2012! Opening Reception: Saturday night on Bank Street. It's an 18 x 24 Oil on Canvas, with a unique blend of the modern mixed with our historic past right here in our backyards at Ocean Beach! (NFS)The art show runs through mid February 2012. Admission is FREE. Includes refreshments and small fee for bottled drinks and wine.


"No matter how the wind howls, the mountain cannot bow to it." ...With all due respect, Your Excellency, I think I've been away from home long enough.... "The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all."(SOURCE: "Walt Disney Pictures Presents: MULAN. Special Edition, Disney DVD. Copyright Disney. (2004 Release) Buena Vista Home Entertainment, Inc. Burbank, CA. For more info, go to: (Denise...Denise Dances...Dec. 7, 2011!) Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!xxoo.("You should watch Mulan, Auntie Denise. Keep watching it. You should watch the first one.")...I think you should, too. :)


Those who opt for a WARRIOR theme become the heroes who step up with anonymous courage to go where they're needed and join the front lines of the challenge at hand. They're our fire fighters, our paramedics, and honest police officers; our astronauts, pioneers, explorers, teachers, and researchers; our volunteers in the wars against crime and drugs; national disasters, teen violence; suicide, hunger, and homelessness; our soldiers ready to protect peace and equality throughout the world; in general our risk takers, whose devotion will always be more apparent than their individual identities. Unfocused, the fearless aggression of the warrior can become destructive. But when it directs that aggression on the peace, safety, expansion and healing of the global and universal communities, the warrior theme can make history. (SOURCE: "Life on the Other Side," by Sylvia Browne, New American Library, Penguin Putnam. New York, NY. Copyright 2000.)

Salt of the Earth

"Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost its savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under the foot of men. Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in Heaven." (Mathew 5: 13-16.) THE HOLY BIBLE, King James version. Copyright 1978 by National Publishing Company. THE GIDEONS INTERNATIONAL.

Ordinary People

"Throughout history, God has used people to do amazing, extraordinary things. Yet all of them had to take a step of faith first. They had to confidently press forward into the unknown or unfamiliar before making any progress. They had to believe they could do what they were attempting to do. "Achieve" comes before "believe" in the dictionary, but the order is switched in real life. It's important to note that, in many cases, successful people have tried many times and failed before they ultimately succeeded. They not only had to begin with confidence, they had to remain confident when every circumstance seemed to shout at them, "Failure! Failure! Failure!" Consider inventor Thomas Edison. He once said: "I speak without exaggeration when I say that I have constructed three thousand different theories in connection with the electric light, each one of them reasonable and apparently likely to be true. Yet only in two cases did my experiments prove the truth of my theory." (SOURCE: The Confident Woman Devotional, page 191. FaithWords: Hachette Book Group; New York, NY. Copyright 2011 by Joyce Meyer.)

Uncommon Gardens

Be sure to check out LYNN RICHARDSON, "Academy of Uncommon Gardens" at CUMMINGS ART CENTER, campus of Connecticut College, New London, CT through December 9, 2011. ALSO SHOWING at the Shain Library: Ongoing exhibits in the Charles Chu Asian Art Gallery. Check out the colorful prints and mosaics, featuring oriental birds such as the crane (or egret); fish, flowers and water. This show is a real "steal!"

"Ornaments in Jazz" at the Coast Guard Academy in New London, CT

"Ornaments in Jazz" at the Coast Guard Academy in New London, CT

Tuesday, December 6, 2011


Tomorrow....WARRIOR! "Salt of the Earth." COMING SOON TO MAAP! "Crocuses!" and scene from The Gallery at City Hall in May 2011. (Is anyone listening out there? And does anyone even care?)Regardless, I will be putting out my final posts in this last month of 2011, December! I plan to keep my MAAP website up and running...with my focus on creative off-line projects (involving the things I do best; art & writing, of course). With thoughts on Freedom of the Press, I strive never to resort to the "yellow journalism" popular of the day...but to always practice integrity. COMING SOON to MAAP! "Crocuses." And "Fall Scene of OASIS at Alewife Cove." FOR MORE INFO, GO TO:

Monday, November 28, 2011

First Impressions

"Impression, Soleil Levant" or, "Impression: Sunrise" (1872). This painting is responsible for the birth of the term, "Impressionist." It was included in the first exhibition held by the Society of Painters, Sculptors, and Engravers in 1874. Monet was a founding member of this society, which had originated from the express desire to end the artistic stranglehold of the Salon. A critic...M. Louis Leroy wrote a now famous article in Le Charivari in which he used the term "Impressionist" based on the title of this painting. Despite the fact that Leroy had used the word derisively, the group decided to adopt it and painters such as Renoir and Degas were happy to be called Impressionists. Impressionist art is concerned with capturing on canvas the light and color of a fleeting moment, usually with brilliant colors painted in small strokes, side by side, rather than blended together. Ironically, "Impression: Soleil Levant" is not typical of Monet's work...His aim was not to create an accurate landscape, but to record the impressions formed while looking at that landscape. (Pages 74-75) (SOURCE: "Essential Monet," by Vanessa Potts, Copyright 1999, Dempsey Parr: PARRAGON; Bath, England.)


"Mission Life Entities" can be found pursuing any and every occupation. They fulfill their purpose through their innate generosity, openness, empathy, and most of all, their willingness to actively elevate the spiritual well-being of humanity without making annoying pests of themselves. It's not an especially enviable challenge, and it's certainly not for everyone. For one thing, Mission Life Entities have to work their way up through the ranks, doing the reincarnation version of everything from {bagging groceries and picking up garbage in the parking lot to cleaning toilets; and typing, filing and office correspondence; to teaching kids and adults of all ages in every subject} {sic} that in the long run, there's no level of life on earth that they can't relate to. For another thing, because they are such advanced spirits, they tend to write very difficult charts for themselves and choose extremely demanding themes and option lines...The parth to achieving their purpose isn't just as full of obstacles as everyone else's, it's typically even more so. Understandably, a whole lot of people aren't interested in signing of for the sacrifices, turmoil, and disappointment the M.L.E. faces in exchange for occasional profound satisfaction...We all honor God best by devoting our finest talents and passions to him, since He bestowed us with those talents and passions...And by making this world a more positive spiritual place, that is exactly what M.L.E.'s do -- nothing more, nothing less. (pp. 162-163). (ASIDE: Indeed, I used to think of myself as a Missionary, while going from temp assignment to temp assignment, for well, you know, the past 20 years!). OF THE 44 LIFE THEMES (pages 229-243). (1) Aesthetic Pursuits. Those with an aesthetic theme have a drive to create some form of artistic beauty, whether in music, dance, theater, literature, painting, sculpture, or architecture. This theme can result in great privilege that will become a burden when the secondary theme is in any way self-destructive. (2) Cause Fighter. They'll leap into the fray of any social issue that inspires them and occasionally, they will create a social issue themselves if they can't find one to champion. When they don't keep themselves and their egos in check, they've been known to compete for and attract more attention (to themselves) than the causes they set out to fight for. -- Wanna hear more? SOURCE: "Life on the Other Side: A Psychic's Tour of The Afterlife," by Sylvia Browne, New American Library, PENGUIN PUTNAM, INC. New York, NY. Copyright 2000. Pick up your copy today at the BOOK BARN, 41 Main Street, Niantic, CT. For more info, go to: Open 9am to 9pm daily.

Hold on Loosely!

"And one of the company said unto Him, Master, speak to my brother that he divide the inheritance with me. And He said unto him, Man, who made me a judge or a divider over you? And He said unto them, Take heed and beware of covetousness: for a man's life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth. And He spake a parable unto them, saying, The ground of a certain rich man brought forth plentifully: And he thought within himself, saying What shall I do, because I have no room where to bestow my fruits? And he said, This will I do: I will pull down my barns, and build greater; and there will I bestow all my fruits and my goods. And I will say to my soul, Soul, thou hast much goods laid up for many years; take thine ease, eat, drink and be merry. But God said unto him, Thou fool, this night thy soul shall be required of thee: then whose shall those things be, which thou hast provided? So is he that layeth up treasure for himself, and is not rich toward God. (Holy Bible, King James Version, Copyright 1978 by National Publishing Company. Luke 12:13-21.) VOCAB (Once a teacher; always a teacher!!!...* * * :) (1) maniple: n [ML manipulus, fr. L handful, fr. manus hand + - pulus (akin to L plere to fill); fr. it's having been originally held in the hand -- more at MANUAL, FULL] 2 [l, manipulus, fr. manipulus handful; fr. the custom of using a handful of hay on the end of a pole as a military standard): a subdivision of the Roman legion consisting of either 120 or 60 men. (2) manipulate: vt. - lated, - lating. [back-formation fr. manipulation fr. F. , fr. manipule handful, fr. L manipulus.] 1: to treat or operate with the hands or by mechanical means -- esp. in a skillful manner. 2a: to manage or utilize skillfully b: to control or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means esp. to one's own advantage 3: to change by artful or unfair means so as to serve one's purpose: DOCTOR syn see HANDLE -- ...manipulative. (adj.). (3) familial: adj. [F, fr., L familia] 1: of, relating to, or characteristic of a family. 2: tending to occur in more members of a family than expected by chance alone (a familial disorder). FOR MORE INFO, GO TO: IN TOUCH with Dr. Charles Stanley, Atlanta, GA. Free Download of Highlights from message of Sunday, Nov. 27, 2011: "Holding Too Tightly."

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Victory Song!

I would like to dedicate this post today to the men and women of the New London Police Department who care enough to make a difference in the lives of ordinary people. On Wednesday, September 28, 2011; I was greeted by pennies raining down on me as I exited my apartment building that morning. Pennies from Heaven? Not quite. It appears that some residents of Williams Park Apartments where I live on 127 Hempstead Street in New London, Connecticut have a mistaken impression of me. Pennies rained down on me from Heaven...five years later....almost to the day...that I received the medical help I needed at Pequot Health Center in Groton, CT, thus being rescued from the negligence of the Public Healthcare System on September 29, 2006. (ASIDE: Blood tests were drawn for about 12 different ailments, which revealed the high blood sugar remaining in my system hours after my last meal...which ultimately led to an expert diagnosis of Diabetes Type II by Dr. Patel in Groton, Connecticut in February 2007. Which restored my faith in doctors so that I was able to seek and receive surgery through Dr. Calla in Norwich in January 2007 and diabetes maintenance through Joslin Diabetes Center in Mystic and New London, starting in June 2007. Oh, and the healthy meals I selected weekly at Pequot Cafe in Groton from September 2007 through May 2009 helped me as well.) HOME SAFE. On Wednesday, September 28, 2011; pennies rained down on me from Heaven. Maybe they were from Paula after all. I got the "caveat," the "hard evidence" I needed! Someone arrived on the scene who listened and cared. (Did Russell send him?) SMILE! You were on candid camera :)! Thanks to the hard work of certain members of the New London Police Department and the ongoing protection which I have received from My Guardian Angels here on Earth for the past several years, by Christmas time...the only heroine left in this place...that'd be me!!!...* * * :) Eventually, we all get our just desserts. I would like to present to you today, just in time for the Holiday Season of 2011......"The Victory Song," "Ancient Dreams" by Patrick O'Hearn. For more info, go to: YEAYYYYYYY!!! Once again, I couldn't do it without you, My Guardian Angels here on Earth...and....My TWO in Heaven!!!...* * * :) (Denise...Denise Dances...November 22, 2011)


Amendment I (1791): "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free excercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peacably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances." THE CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITED STATES.

Monday, November 21, 2011

Home Safe

SECAPA Southeastern Conn Authors & Publishers Association. It's official! After years of a "free" meeting here and there, I am officially a member and tonight is my first meeting as an "official." Meetings are once a month on Mondays, usually at the Groton Public Library. (What am I working on? A children's book and a young adult novel.) Be sure to watch "Dancing with the Stars" tonight and Tuesday night for the Season Finale! Who will win? The shy and unlikely late bloomer, Rob Kardashian, who has been overpowered by his sisters most of his life? The war hero and skilled dancer from the git-go; J.R.? Or the elegant and beautiful perfectionist, Ricki Lake? It's anyone's guess! Did you know that I met two-time dance champion Kym Johnson at the Mohegan Sun's "Reality Check" series on June 17, 2011? P.S. Another great book: "Life on the Other Side" by Sylvia Browne. On "Twilight: Breaking Dawn:" First half was very romantic; second half: Blood! As always, great cinematography in the wilds of the Northwestern United States. Yes, I've been in Niantic!

Thursday, November 17, 2011

33 hits! More on MAAP!

33 hits last Tuesday, everyone! I guess you really do love me after all. Thanx to all of my faithful readers of My Voice; the blog-o-sphere. In an effort to de-frag myself from most on-line activity; I won't be far. Please continue to check me out on MAAP! For more info, go to: Find me at Mystic Art Center and at City Hall under "Galleries & Festivals" posts. UP NEXT: "Crocuses," in remembrance of Russell, coming soon to MAAP. More BACKYARD SCENES to come as well. Trying to focus on the visual in order to retain my artistic eye...without fatiguing out! (I don't wanna fade away....!)

Monday, November 14, 2011

Holiday Message & Blog Finale!

Unlikely Angel. Dolly Parton plays the unsuspecting "accomplice" in this 1996 TV movie, co-starring Roddy McDowall. Yes, there are angels. They exist here on Earth and in Heaven, in the dimension of the Afterlife. She comes in all shapes and sizes. He may be the one you least expect. He accompanies us here on Earth for a while. He may be taken from our world suddenly! Perhaps it is because he is urgently needed in Heaven; where he is more powerful than he could ever be here on Earth. Still, we miss him. And still, all sorts of plagues and calamities befall us, once he is gone from our earthly existence (unless we stay in the water :)..."Ye have not because ye ask not." "Seek and ye shall find." "Seek ye first the Kingdom of God." (FOR MORE INFO, GO TO: and check out the latest message of inspiration from Dr. Charles Stanley.) Has your life been touched by an Angel? I know mine has. And I know he lives on in the Afterlife, along with Paula and many others. I know that I have a Guardian Angel in Heaven. Not one, but two. I know because I've been extremely blessed. I believe in Guardian Spirits or Angels that intercede for us in Heaven...and here on Earth, too. In Remembering Russell...this holiday season, I would like to present to you a beautiful song which reminds me of him, "that man on the beach." Ryuichi Sakamoto: "Merry Christmas, Mr. Lawrence," from Playing the Piano Out of Noise," (2010). For more info, go to: (ASIDE: If ya wanna get anywhere in this life, ya gotta go through the appropriate channels!!!...* * * :) UP NEXT! (1) HYGIENIC "Salon des Independants." Art Exhibit & Winter Art Festival. Downtown New London. Late January 2012. Featuring..."Duck Pond" (SCENES OF MINI GOLF COURSE). (2) "Art for Life" Auction, Mystic Arts Center, downtown Mystic. Sat., March 31, 2012. All proceeds are donated to the Alliance for Living, 150 Broad St, New London, CT. (3) Cooperative Artists Gallery of Westerly. Juried Exhibit, Spring 2012. (I hope!) (4) Cooperative Artists Gallery of Westerly, Member Show. October 2012. (I hope!) COMING SOON TO MAAP! "Crocuses," Ocean Beach, Saturday, April 16, 2011. For more info, go to: Happy Holidays! With Love, Denise (Denise...Denise Dances...November 14, 2011.)

Saturday, November 5, 2011

"Those Raging Hormones!"

On "Perimenopausal Rage!" When the female hormones, estrogen and progesterone are out of balance. SYMPTOMS: (1) Severe mood swings within minutes. (2) Out-of-proportion anger. (3) Long-time history of PMS (pre-menstrual syndrome). (ASIDE: The hormonal, or Endocrine System affects people with Diabetes, as well. Here, the chemical imbalance is: INSULIN, a hormone.) 4 SOLUTIONS: (1) antidepressant meds: Talk to your doctor who will monitor side effects and prescribe the right meds for you. (2) progesterone cream: (20 mg) Available in health food stores. Replenishes hormones. Use for 3 consecutive weeks, every day. Stop using for one week, just as you would a birth control pill. (3) Reduce or cut out: Caffeine, Alcohol, and...SUGAR! (4) Stress of life: Find ways to cope or eliminate the causes of stress in your life. (5) Take a multivitamin with B complex and Omega 3s. (6) Dr. Oz suggests therapy, which may help, but I suggest talking with a good friend! PERIMENOPAUSE IS A MEDICAL CONDITION WHICH AFFECTS WOMEN IN THEIR THIRTIES AND FORTIES. MENOPAUSE CAN BEGIN AS EARLY AS THE FORTIES IN SOME WOMEN. "Get Help!" For more info, go to:

"Human Traffic"

Now Showing at the PROVENANCE CENTER on 165 State Street, Suite 117, New London, CT. "Child Trafficking: 21st Century Slaves." October 15-November 27, 2011. HOURS 2-5:30p.m., Wednesday to Friday. "All cultural expression is part of the collective experience of mankind." Director: Nadesha Mijoba. FOR MORE INFO, GO TO: For more info on how to help, call U.S. CUSTOMS and BORDER PROTECTION (1-800-BE-ALERT) or (1-800-232-5378) or go to:


Photos of my Art Show at City Hall and the "Art for Life" Auction in Mystic last April and May 2011. For more info, go to: I would like to express my thanks and gratitude to Rob Pero for initiating "New London Art Night" and for opening City Hall to local artists and children to display their artwork monthly. Next NL Art Nite: Saturday, December 3, 2011. From 5:00 - 8:00 p.m. For more info, go to: For more info on Rob Pero, go to: VOTE! on Tues, November 8 for a Mayor for the City of New London, elected by the people, for the first time in four decades! VOTE "No!" to prevent the sale of Riverside Park and to preserve it for future generations and the children of the new magnet school in East New London!

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Heart Gallery

Now Showing at the East Lyme Public Library & Community Center: HEART GALLERY. For more info on kids who seek ADOPTION or Foster Care, call 1-888-KID HERO. Come and view the professional photography, revealing the many faces of Adoption. Each month, the public space at the entrance of the East Lyme Public Library and Community Center building allows a local artist or photographer to showcase his or her talents to the public. But every year; the HEART GALLERY and other similar organizations uses this public space; which is well traversed by the public for many different activities, such as the Senior Center, East Lyme Parks & Recreation, the E.L. Public Library, and the Shoreline Swing monthly dances. Why not come and check out these viable alternatives for yourself and others? (Denise...Denise Dances...2011)

Saturday, October 15, 2011


Just as October was my buddy Paula's favorite month (and still is); she used to take note of my lethargy, in particular during the Fall season in October and declared it was my lowest time of the year. Fatigue? Yes! But, been in hibernation for too long. And in dire need of lots of outside time! And Sunshine! So, for now....back outside to visit the rams and lambs...and until next time, Honeeeey, see you at the beeeaaaach! (Denise...Denise Dances...2011)

Winter Tales

LOVE FOR A JUST CAUSE For more info, go to: the heroine of the latest movie for kids and adults, "Dolphin Tales." Happy to see this movie a week or so ago in Niantic, I feel it was tailor made just for me, in a way. Go see it soon! October was / is my buddy Paula's favorite month and she be callin' me home; to share a favorite place and memories of the place we used to frequent: NIANTIC.

World's Greatest Musician

"One of the world's greatest classical musicians -- whose performances normally earn $1000 a minute -- was playing Bach's most difficult and exquisite violin pieces on a 3.5 million dollar, 300-year-old Stradivarius for FREE!"one morning at Washington DC's Metro station in January 2007." I have enjoyed listening to violin virtuoso Joshua Bell, on occasion on PBS TV, Live from Lincoln Center in New York; and accompanied by the New York Philharmonic Orchestra -- for FREE as well. Although I did not readily assign a dollar value to this at-home concert serenade; I would say I enjoyed it just as much as if I did realize the dollar value. These concerts may be considered a luxury...but at times, call it a luxury to sit at home and relax with a live classical concert out of New York these days! This selection is from IN TOUCH MAGAZINE. For more info, go to:


UP NEXT! Out to lunch. Hey. It's been almost two weeks, too long to go without a visit to my wooly friends, the rams and lambs out back! Badly in need of fresh air and outdoor excercise as well! Antsy? Waking up in the wee hours? UP NEXT: "World's Greatest Musician"...and..."Winter Tales." Briefly, as I have a lot to do...and so do you!

Day at the Museum: Finale!

FIVE. Back home via the heavily trafficked I-95 (badly in need of repair, another lane, and widening)...I took a Waterford exit...crossing the Town Line from East Lyme...I entered the doldrums of Oswegatchie...that section of Waterford where...blink an eye and it's gone!...past September's, my long-forgotten dance club of the 80s and maybe even early 90s...(I guess all this shit was bound to happen...:)....and through Waterford Center...and following Clark Lane home. The Florence Griswold Museum and grounds are located on Exit 70 in Old Lyme, just off of I-95. HOURS Tuesday - Saturday, 10-5. Sunday 1-5. For more info, call (860)434-5542. Or go to: NOW SHOWING: The Exacting Eye of Walker Evans, October 2, 2011 to January 29, 2012. Check out his black and whites of the Depression Era of the 1930s.

Museum IV: "Girl Looks Outside"

THE RIVERFRONT. "The property is bordered on the west by the Lieutenant River, which meandes through Old Lyme, later joining the Connecticut River, just before it flows into Long Island Sound. The Lieutenant River is in constant flux, as the tide fills the river to capacity, flooding the grassy marshes along the riverbanks, for which Old Lyme is known to attract artists. Using a borrowed canoe, the artists would investigate" the network of rivers and rivulets. The ever-changing light on the river and marsh grasses inspired them, as it does me. Canoeing, anyone? MARSHFIELD HOUSE. This unassuming white structure, rear of the Krieble Gallery, was designed by New York architect Philip Hiss (1857-1940), as a Colonial Revival house built in 1937 by Judge Robert McCurdy Marsh. And the actual site where I stood, in a different place and time, in turn of the century garb, as a "virtual" model for my painting of last Fall 2010..."Girl Looks Outside." (This painting was given to my mother in April 2011 as a birthday gift, portrait of oldest daughter.)For more info, please see earlier posts of October 2010 and find out where I got my inspiration! For more info, check me out at:

A Day at the Museum: III

THE FLORENCE GRISWOLD HOUSE. Captain Robert Harper Griswold bought it in 1841. His youngest daughter, Florence turned it from a sea captain's mansion to a boardinghouse for artists, charging $7.00 per week, communal meals and accommodations. The Old Lyme Artists Colony of American Impressionist style painters stayed here as her guests from 1899-1922.

A Day at the Museum: Part II

LUCIEN ABRAMS (1870-1941) "The Orchard," Oil on Canvas, 1916, features bold brushstrokes, extreme texture, color contrasts, dotted and not blended. This painting on permanent display at the Florence Griswold House, 2nd floor is the one which I admired most on this particular visit.

A Day at the Museum

BUT NOT YET! A Day at the Museum: The Working Methods of the Old Lyme Artists" WILLIAM CHADWICK (1879-1962) STUDIO. "Despite the fact that the Impressionists, both in France and America, championed the notion of painting outdoors -- Most eventually returned to the studio to complete a work of art. The early Old Lyme artists led by Henry Ward Ranger work outdoors with the intention of gathering visual info in a sketchbook or an oil sketch. In contrast, "plein-airists" ventured outside and set up painting stations...Most of the artist who came to Old Lyme also had studios in New York or elsewhere. The studios had high ceilings and north-facing windows with spaces for sleeping and living." (Florence Griswold Museum, Old Lyme, CT. Tuesday, October 11, 2011.)

Good Morning from Groton!

Good Morning to you all, my Faithful Readers! If you are still here, it feels good to be "home," (in the words of Julianne Hough, former dance instructor on "Dancing with the Stars;" airing Monday and Tuesday nights live on ABC TV. Just thought I would mention a fun factoid. Y'know Kim Johnson, the blond with the Aussie accent? I met her, in person, along with Dimitri Chaplin, at the Mohegan Sun "Reality Check" series, Free Performance and autograph signing on -- no less, June 17, 2011...the four year anniversary of the fateful day we discovered my best friend Paula had passed. Coincidence? I think not! We both loved the show and would call each other during commercials to dish. So...the Four Year Interlude since the passing of Paula...the 2-Year interlude within the Interlude of a major relationship for me, my friendship with Russell. Sometime around mid Summer, I feel I began what is the Second Half of My Life. I plan to retire this blog by December 2011. That's right, everyone! I'm getting off my soapbox. From its "humble" beginnings as an intended expose on the Public Healthcare System...which led to CSI#1...and CSI #2...I think that's more than enough trouble for one lifetime. I feel this blog attracts danger! It feels good to be safe; safer than I have been in a long time; I hope. The only way Out of something is through think SAFE in order to be SAFE...and retire what attracts danger! However, being that I live in New London, CT; I feel there is no Middle Ground: only the very wealthy...and the very poor...and's exactly the same thing! And order that I may live the Second Half of my life...without attracting any more trouble... if I can help it...It's time to start living and stop blogging! ASAP. (Denise...Denise Dances...2012 +)

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

"Room with a View"

ROOM WITH A VIEW: The four spires of St. Mary Star of the Sea Church are the focal point. Surrounding area includes the Thames River, the banks of Groton, Eastern Point Beach, Fisher's Island, the mouth of the Thames River and New London Ledge Light; Fort Trumbull, the OIC building, Shaw's Cove, Ocean Avenue, St. Joseph's Church, etc., etc.

"Manisses Nativity Scene"

Need I say more? FOR MORE INFO, GO TO: and there you will see...the long-awaited..."Manisses Nativity Scene!" (OILS OF BLOCK ISLAND). Just in time for Christmas! COMING SOON to MAAP! "Pachelbel Pine...with Robin Feather Study (BACKYARD SCENES / OF MINI GOLF COURSE)..."The Familiar" (BACKYARD SCENES)...and ..."Crocuses." As well, you will soon be able to view: photos from my art exhibit at City Hall, TSETSE Gallery, Month of May 2012?


...Featuring scenes from two of my favorite places, Ocean Beach, including the boardwalk and the Mini Golf Course...and the Burrows Farm in back of the Groton Library..."Winter Scenes of January 2011."


UP NEXT...This afternoon, I will have for you a Winter Photo Essay from two of my favorite places (which I think you all know they are by now)..."Room with a View" (the view outside of my living room windows of the historic waterfront district in New London)...and COMING SOON TO MAAP! At long last...."Manisses Nativity Scene!" (OILS OF BLOCK ISLAND), the first in a series! "Manisses Nativity Scene" is a spin-off of A Peacable Kingdom by Edward Hicks, one of the most reknowned American Folk Artists. A Peacable Kingdom, something we all desire and which we have all worked very hard for! FOR MORE INFO, GO TO: Check it out this afternoon! (Wednesday, October 5, 2011). As for me, I am just going to enjoy the day outside, here in Groton Town, home of the rams and the Peacable Kingdom. UP NEXT: In the future: LESS WORDS (except for my Private Journal), and a couple of off-line creative projects. MORE PICTURES. Get the picture? (Denise...Denise Dances...2011.)

Monday, September 26, 2011


FOR MORE INFO, on a New You and the chance to win $1M in May 2012; go to: 23 hits today! (Thanx for following me, everyone! -- Not the stalkers, though. I'm sure they're hiding lots of dirty little secrets which they don't want anyone to know about. Like I said: Job Security :)...But what about me? How much longer will I be forced to live in poverty and fear. And -- WHY?


"Who says I don't work?" Someday, somehow, somewhere; I would like to present to you more of my original drawings and paintings since Winter & Spring 2011 on my MAAP website! Haven't been able to squeeze film processing into my budget these days! Stay tuned and visit: UP NEXT: "Porgy & Bess," Broadway's hottest revived musical (originally an opera!)...The Holy Bible: quotes from the story of "David & Goliath." And I plan to update my profile on LINKEDIN soon with awwwwwlllll of my art exhibits for the past few years, since 1999 and especially 2010 to 2011. (It's hot...and beware!... all of you stalkers and gawkers at Williams Park Apartments in New London, CT! Because I'm gonna kick your butts to holy H-e-l-l! (Denise...Denise Dances...2011.)

"Crocuses" Among Us

Partly sunny and very peaceful at Ocean Beach. I felt safe among the patches of crocuses, blooming in profusion among the gardens, and surrounding the mini golf course at Ocean Beach. Crocuses bloom...often poking through the ice and snow which remains...after a long, cold and often lonely winter. Spring awakening. Easter! Rebirth. Transformation! What was I doing on that fateful day? On Saturday, April 16, 2011 -- the day dawned. In late afternoon..."Crocuses," prismacolor pencil on paper. (BACKYARD SCENES OF MINI GOLF COURSE) (I would be pleased to honor my friend, the late and great Russell Cavanaugh with my drawing of "Crocuses" presented to you on MAAP! ("But YOU like it!" -- R.C.) For more info, please go to:

More Backyard Scenes!

COMING SOON TO MAAP! "Pachelbel Pine...with Robin Feather Study" (BACKYARD SCENES / OF MINI GOLF COURSE). OASIS: Field Notes - (1) Use watercolor to paint pale blue sky. (2) Keep it "minimalist" -- like an Oriental Brush painting. (3) Robin Feather Study - nice, plump robin - is focal point. For more info, go to: But when???


In 1893, the City of New London purchased White Sands Beach for $25. From that time forward, the beach, located on the City's southern most shore was known as OCEAN BEACH PARK. The tract included two parks, a small one on the west end and a larger park on the east end. The two parked were joined by a narrow stretch of beach. Even then, visitors would invariably express delight over the beauty of the landscape. (COMING SOON to MAAP....! "Duck Pond" (SCENES OF MINI GOLF COURSE). For more info, go to: or most likely sooner at the annual HYGIENIC "Salon des Independents" Winter Art Exhibit & Festival in downtown New London in late January 2012.


The harsh environment of the coastal habitat has led to the evolution of a variety of plants which provide functional benefits to people and wildlife. The plants serve as a food source, shelter and to stabilize the environment. The protection of these resources is an important management policy for the City of New London. The Nature Walk and Observation Platform are designed to encourage visitors to stay on the designated trails, thus minimizing impacts to these sensitive areas. (Sponsored by the CT Long Island Sound license plate fund and the CT-DEP.) (COMING SOON...TO MAAP! "Fall Scene of Alewife Cove" and "Fall Scene of OASIS at Alewife Cove (w/ songbirds). For more info, go to:

Rugosa Rose

RUGOSA ROSE Also known as the wrinkled rose, this plant has fragrant pink, red or white blossoms that bloom several times throughout the Spring and early Fall. This plant stabilizes the sandy soil and its fruit (rose hips) are a food source for wildlife. Rose hips are also used to make syrup, jam and jelly. Rugosa Rose can grow from 2-6 feet and the branches and nettles provide an almost impenetrable shelter for small birds and mammals that call this habitat home. However, Rugosa Rose is on the CT-DEP list of potentially invasive plants. (COMING SOON to MAAP! "The Transformation Series I, II and III." For more info, go to:

Joyce Meyer says: Be Unstoppable!

"Hedy Lamarr, a popular movie star from the 1930s and 1940s, was extremely creative and intelligent. She earnestly wanted to help with the war effort during World War II...considered leaving acting to join the National Inventors Council...told her pretty face and star status could do more for the war by encouraging people to buy war bonds. But Hedy never gave up...and helped invent a remote controlled radio communications system that was patented during WWII. In addition to her invention..., she raised millions of dollars to help the war effort. It is amazing that those who have contributed so much to the progress of society have often had to endure tremendous criticism, judgement, and persecution in order to make something in the world better. This clearly shows how Satan fights progress of any kind. He uses all kinds of fears to try and stop people. But the Confident Woman keeps pressing on and will say: YES! even when the world screams "no!" (SOURCE: "The Confident Woman Devotional," by Joyce Meyer; FaithWords: Hachette Book Group; New York, NY. Copyright 2011.) How's that for up-to-the minute news reporting???...* * * :)(Denise...Denise Dances...2011!) NOTE: Be sure to watch "Dancing with the Stars" this Monday evening on ABC TV.


UP NEXT. Good morning, Everyone! Yeah, I'm still here. Back to my place of refuge. I swear the very walls have eyes where I live. (How else would these people have been able to get away with so much for so long?) UP NEXT: Continuing along the path to reveal to you the differing Ancient Belief Systems in life after death, we will have: "NATIVE AMERICANS" and finally, CHRISTIANITY. Another selection from THE CONFIDENT WOMAN by Joyce Meyer...Selections from the History of Ocean Beach...COMING SOON TO MAAP!...and....mooooore MUSIC! Less controversy. Much less! Yeah...get me to a Safe Harbor...soon!


AUSTRALIAN ABORIGINES: The natives of Australia have a rich storehouse of beliefs. A strong concept of "Life after death" survives. The "dream time" in which they believe is a place removed from space and time. It is home to spirits and ancestors, gods and psychic messages. "Many aborigines still live their lives according to rules handed down for millenia in no more than a story and a song." MUTANT MESSAGE DOWN UNDER, -- a book I read in 1995 while taking up T'ai Chi -- details a "walk about" which the author took through the desert, accompanied by a primitive population of people. Here, the aborigines commune with spirits and each other, using their gifts of mental telepathy. "They base their lives on intuitive hunches and the ability to empathize with the emotions...of others, even at a distance." (Yes, I have this gift. However, not everyone who possesses this ability uses it for the good of others. Ie, M.S., 2nd floor.)...Often "responding to an inner call to move out of danger to another place or of rescuers finding compatriots in distress who have issued a...'psychic flare.'" "We have lost touch with basic survival skills that may once have kept us alive in a hostile environment." According to paranormal researcher Bill Chalker, the rock art of the Northern Territory reveals a belief in life after death. They believe that the dead are taken up into the sky and brought back to Earth again, in a trance as they witness their friends and relatives in morning. (SOURCE: "The Afterlife: An Investigation into the Mysteries of Life After Death," by Jenny Randles and Peter Hough, The Berkeley Publishing Group, New York, NY. Copyright 1993. Available at the Book Barn in downtown Niantic, CT.)


APATHY: n [Gk apatheia, fr. apathes without feeling, fr. a- + pathos emotion -- more at PATHOS] 1: LACK OF FEELING OR EMOTION: IMPASSIVENESS 2: LACK OF INTEREST OR CONCERN: INDIFFERENCE.

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Positive Changes!

Positive Changes have come to the landscape at WP Apts. I applaud the attempt to bring the community IN, but I know certain members of the population are slow to change. I also know that I don't mix well in certain situations. I prefer to join the community WITHOUT, such as the Riverside Park festival last Sunday, at the last minute notice in The Day for "en plein air" painting. There certainly was a cool vibe in the air last Sunday as I toted my paints and favored a certain tree in this park atop the hill, overlooking the Thames River, just off of Crystal Avenue, near the Goldstar Bridge in East New London. Accompanied by the music of live bands, I enjoyed the new direction my "job" (OASIS) is taking! I didn't see the day go by and everyone who attended was friendly to me; including many people who I recognized from my travails in downtown New London from Summer 2010. "Good natured!" New London Landmarks will meet at the Pilot House at Ocean Beach on the evening of October 13; 6:30-8:30 to address the issues of Saving Riverside Park for the City of New London and the children at the new magnet school.

Saturday, September 17, 2011



So that's what happened to him! Paintings in acrylic and oil by the artist "Sasha" are on display on the second floor of the Westerly Public Library, the temporary home of the Hoxie Gallery. Not surprisingly, my favorites included a trio: "Russian Fairy Tale I," Russian Fairy Tale II" and "Russian Fairy Tale III." The First features a beautiful red bird of paradise...the Second in the series, the gentleman is wooing her...and the third, ah! Dragon-slaying! (Need I say more?) "Sasha" is Aleksandr Trachishin, who was a Resident Artist from Russia, residing at the Griffis Art Center in New London in the early 1990s. Alex was my Instructor at the Artware Store in Groton, where I created "Academia" under his tutelage. Now on display at the East Lyme Public Library for the month of September. For more info, go to:

Art Thrives in Westerly!

FOR MORE INFO, go to the Westerly Cooperative Artists Gallery, downtown for: "Black, White & Shades of Gray...Value" Artist Members Show, running September 1-24. 7 Canal Street, downtown Westerly, RI. It's next to the United Theater, off of High Street. Open Tues-Sat, 10-5pm. For more info, go to:

Dating Etiquette

As I stayed home and rested all day on Friday, I tuned in to my fave afternoon shows! First, Better Connecticut with Scott Haney & Kara Sundlan (sp?) on Channel 3 at 3. This is a fun-filled, light-hearted TV show with lots of useful information for those who live (and work) all over Connecticut. Here is some helpful advice for those of you who are (still) single! DATING ETIQUETTE. The "date doctor" says: On the First Date: Go out together for coffee or ICE CREAM! (I'll take the latter. I love coffee; but -- I'm almost always hungry! And I looooooove ice cream!) The Second Date: The "date doctor" (herself a woman) feels that if you both decide that you like each other enough to see each other again; the gentleman should take the lady out to dinner and pay! The ideal spot differs with each couple, but a place that is nice and quiet where you both can talk is the best bet. The Third Date: (How does anyone make it this far?) In this economy and tough times; consider "Cheap Dates!" To suit the preferences of the couple, cheap dates can be anything, from taking hikes in the local parks and beaches with a picnic lunch (and a bottle of wine :)... and going to the grocery store to shop and cook dinner at home....Your place or mine???...* * * :) (Denise...Denise Dances...2011).


OK. It's true that I choose to do this: "Denise Dances" blog; writing about my life experiences and communicating to all of you readers out there on-line. I choose to do this. It's volunteer -- WORK. That means that I don't get paid to do this. I do enjoy doing this. I feel that I am trying to make the world "a better place" as well as to tell "my side" of the story (as I feel "listening" is indeed a lost art these days, which we should all practice a lot more of; including me!) However, as more creative projects take hold of me; including my art studio, OASIS (my Third Year: Sept.-May); and planning more Gigs for MAAP in 2012 (also my Third Year) -- I would like to wean off of my blog a bit and start to keep a Private Journal. How much of this blog, "Denise Dances" is the real me? Or is it the face I choose to show to the world? My Blog (which subsequently has become MY VOICE, along with "Fool's Gold" and MAAP) may need to step down from its soapbox for a while. Like I said, whenever I do any type of work; three years seems to be the absolute limit for me and I feel totally burned out, physically, mentally and emotionally. So...Monthly Updates instead? (To keep my focus only on what is essential). Gotta live the second half of my we can all get...THE REST OF THE STORY! I don't plan to live the Second Half of My Life on-line! OASIS beckons...and I do have plenty of creative juices left...Stay tuned for more Art Gigs as MAAP begins its Third Year in 2012! Featuring the HYGIENIC "Salon des Independents", downtown New London in late January to early February 2012...the "Art for Life" Auction for the Alliance for Living based in New London, taking place at the Mystic Arts Center on March 31, 2012...and perhaps the Members Only Spring & Fall Art Exhibits at...the Westerly Artists Cooperative Gallery in Rhode Island!

"Talking to Heaven"

"Your family and friends who have not forget you. They are more accessible to you...than they were living on the earth. They know more about your soul's path and motivation than while they were alive. They...check on you very often...even though a spirit is beckoned, it does not mean that it will drop everything to make contact with you...Just as you go to work every day and fulfill a job...when your family or friends pass into the world of spirit, they also fill their existence with so-called jobs and work to progress themselves spiritually. When you call on them with your thoughts, they hear you loud and clear...but do not become obsessed with it, for you are not only holding them back from their progress but keeping yourself from the work you need to accomplish here." SOURCE: "Talking to Heaven (A Medium's Message of Life After Death); by James Van Praagh; Dutton: Penguin Putnam, Inc.; New York, NY. Copyright 1997. For further info re: James Van Praagh, send a SASE to: Spiritual Horizons, Inc.; 7985 Santa Monica Blvd.; Suite 109-135, West Hollywoood, CA 90046. Or go to: A copy of this book is usually available at the Book Barn, located on 269 Main Street in downtown Niantic, CT (for $4.oo plus tax). (For more info, go to:

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Little Miss "Can't Do Wrong!"

"I'm here at the East Lyme Public Library, Thurs, 9/15." (TWEET!) "I'm taking my dirty laundry (darks) to downtown Niantic today to get away from the stalkers and talkers." (TWEET!) "I checked on my art show and it still looks great!" (TWEET!) "Thanx to my Guardian Angels once again for protecting me where I live!" (TWEET!) "Dancing with the Stars premieres next Monday on ABC TV at 8pm." (TWEET!) "I may consider dancing along -- with the shades up! (Freedom of Expression) (TWEET!) (For more info, check out "Robin in Red Maple" (BACKYARD SCENES) here at the East Lyme Public Library in September!)

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

31 Hits Tuesday

Thanx to Everyone; my faithful followers and anyone who is new to my site. I am trying to become positive and stay out of trouble these days! I realize that everything I say and do affects others, especially the youth of today. It is a constant struggle for all of us to set a good example; but it can be achieved with determination and not without a whole lotta faith! 31 hits on Tuesday (9/13). I will be back with some more good stuff sometime next week. See you all then. In the meantime, as we all recover from Hurricane Irene (the great equalizer) and rebound from 9/11 -- Check out my Solo Gig Art Exhibit at the East Lyme Public Library & Community Center, just off of Society Road from Route 161, from I-95...Exit 74, I believe. (Denise...Denise Dances...2011) P.S. Every month at the EL Como Center is a featured artist or photographer in many unique and beautiful shows, which I used to view as a dancer with Shoreline Swing, accompanied by my best friend Paula from 2001-2007.

Monday, September 12, 2011

Time Out!

Lunch time! (And time for a Time Out!)

Ancient Belief Systems: ISLAM

In the Seventh Century A.D., the prophet Mohammed founded "Islam" at Mecca in Arabia. At the age of 40, Mohammed started receiving revelations from God. "Islam" wasw established by the Moslems. Its laws and beliefs were written in "The Koran." "The Koran" gives guidance on earthly matters. If man refuses to submit to God and do His will, he will suffer the the Afterlife. The good, however, will enjoy a garden of paradise. (-- I'm there! -- DH) The evil, to severe punishment. (Don't interfere with their penance.) Two angels, "Munkar" and "Nakeer" are said to interrogate the deceased after the mourners have gone. On the day of resurrection, the deceased will stand before God while all the details of their past life are read from a scroll. Their good deeds and bad deeds are weighed against each other. The Koran mentions a bridge over Hell. All are challenged to cross it. Said to be 'finer than a hair and sharper than a sword,' believers cross over successfully while unbelievers fall into a deep abyss. {ASIDE: Isn't there always one? The Bible often refers to those who "walk the narrow pathway to God's Kingdom." If per chance you witness me on one of my daily strolls, often at Ocean Beach, lining the pathways along the gardens...or the curved route along the mini golf course...or the Nature Walk trail along Alewife Cove...please believe...that I am attempting to "walk the narrow pathway to God's Kingdom"...every step of the way...and good luck to those who would stop me. (Originally hand-written on July 29, 2011.)(Denise...Denise Dances...2011!) Ten Years after the Fall of The World Trade Center twin towers.

Remembering 9/11: "Resurrection"

Great Performances on WGBH (PBS) topped off my evening on the ten-year anniversary of 9/11. Featuring the New York Philharmonic Orchestra, live from Lincoln Center, the evening serenade consisted of Mahler's Symphony No. 2, "Resurrection," performed, and ultimately ending with a chorus singing in Italian (with English subtitles) such words as...."our seeds shall be sown again"...."we shall overcome"..."we shall rise again"...Surprisingly, I found it hard to tune in to this concert until the banging and clashing of the end, accompanied by these words!

Remembering 9/11: Dr. Charles Stanley

FOR MORE INFO, GO TO: and click on the Banner, "Remembering NINE11" FOR MORE INFO on Sunday's TV broadcast, In Touch with Dr. Charles Stanley, (Local TV station WHPX-TV, Sundays, 8-9a.m., and Local Radio Station WSGG-FM, Mondays, 3:30-4pm): LIVING THROUGH YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES, call (800)323-3747. In Touch Ministries, PO Box 7900, Atlanta, GA 30357. Subscribe to: "In Touch" magazine, FREE. Standing on the pulpit, red-carpeted, but modest with a large map of the globe in the background and large wooden pillars, Dr. Charles Stanley resembles a well liked teacher in a different place and time, very similar to my sixth grade classroom at Palmer Memorial School in Uncasville, CT. In a calm, unassuming manner, he delivers the timely message of the Word of God and is surprisingly in touch with modern technology in order to spread the word of the Gospel teachings. Quiet and unassuming, Dr. Stanley may not grab your attention immediately, but in time, if you give "In Touch" a try, I think you may become as fond of the series, and the wide range of print and on-line media which he makes available to all of us in his established outreach ministry.

Remembering 9/11: Stand up and Fight!

FOR MORE INFO, GO TO: No one should ever be afraid to stand up and Fight for Your Rights!

Saturday, September 10, 2011


FEMA OPENS RECOVERY CENTERS TODAY (Hartford) -- Gov. Danniel P. Malloy announced Wednesday that Federal Emergency Management Agency centers will open today (Thursday, Sept. 8) in every county of the state to help homeowners and businesses affected by Tropical Storm Irene. The recovery centers are staffed with state and federal disaster recovery specialists and representatives from the U.S. Small Business Administration. Those with damage or losses as a result of the storm are encouraged to register with FEMA before visiting by either calling (800)621-3362 or going on line at or The New London County center is at the Groton Senior Center, 102 Newtown Road in Groton (Exit 88 off of I-95 from New London; take right off the exit ramp). The Senior Center is on the right, past the church.) The Middlesex County center is at the Department of Police Services, 6 Custom Drive in Old Saybrook. The Windham County center is at Quinebaug Valley Community College, 742 Upper Maple Street in Danielson. (Isn't that the street where I used to live?)...The centers were open at noon last Thursday and close at 7pm. Regular hours will be: 9am to 7pm Monday thru Saturday, and 10am - 3pm on Sunday. The TTY number is: (800)462-7585.

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Confront Injustice

Dorothea Lynde Dix ((1802-1887) initiated the most widespread reform for the "mentally ill" (quotes mine) that occurred during the nineteenth century. Her first experience in mental health reform came about as a result of an opportunity to conduct a Sunday school class in a jail where she found mentally ill people kept in unheated cells because "the insane do not feel heat or cold." One of the conclusions of her research was that by merely improving the living conditions of the mentally ill, their illness could be greatly alleviated. Dix played a major role in founding 32 mental hospitals, 15 schools for the "feebleminded" (quotes again mine), a school for the blind, and numerous training facilities for nurses. All that must happen in order for a tragic injustice to crumble is for someone to confront it. (Boldness mine, too!) That person must have perseverance and must not be easily defeated by opposition. It is totally amazing what one woman can accomplish if she will press forward confidently rather than "shrink" (quotes mine! :) back in fear. (SOURCE: "The Confident Woman Devotional," by Joyce Meyer, Copyright 2011). If God wanted to slaugher and martyr me, He wouldn't have taken Russell to be My Guardian Angel x2! -- Denise A. Hix, "A Confident Woman" (1962-!!!...* * * :)

"You Made a Mistake!"

("The reason you're in the situation you're in is because YOU made a mistake. You moved to New York and that was a mistake!") (January 2005) The reason I'm in the situation I'm in is because I made a mistake. In the Fall of 1997, I was "seduced" by FREE ballroom dance lessons from a studio franchise; which came to me from -- of all things, my love of GARDENING -- through a Michigan Bulb Company catalogue flyer insert. I had my first lesson. I liked it. I came back for more. At the end of this "trial period," the studio owner said: "Do you have $500?" I didn't. And I didn't want to put it on a credit card. I had a job, as a Special Ed Aide at Fitch Middle School (my favorite job, remember?) in Groton (the place of my blessing). I took a second job. It was at Brookstone in the Crystal Mall and I knew the manager, himself a graduate of the UNH Master's degree in Education program (1995-96). From 1997-1998, I had a full-time day job at Fitch Middle School; 3-4 evenings a week of Group (dance lessons) at the studio. Just for the Christmas season, I took a second job at Brookstone on alternate evenings and weekends. By the time my seasonal job ended in January 1998, I became very sick with a common cold, sore throat, etc. I'm ashamed to even try to remember how much of my hard-earned cash I spent on ballroom dance lessons from the Fall of 1997 until my next job; a temp assignment at Pfizer in Groton ended (July 1998-January 1999). It was in the Fall of 1998 that I accepted that "first date;" once again, "seduced" by fine dining, symphony concerts, and that first trip to Key West, FL in the Winter of 1999. ("You're a little depressed. There's medication...!") --When does "a little depressed" become "a lot depressed?" Even back then, it was obvious. What? you ask. When my temp assignment at Pfizer ended in January 1999, my art lived on, in the Pfizer Family & Employee BARE (Bringing Art to the Research Environment) Exhibit from February to May 1999. ("Spring Freshet," circa 1993.) The costly ballroom dance lessons and a total of 4 costly dance competitions became fewer and fewer as my income went down and my unemployment went up in Winter-Spring 1999, and well into the next decade! When I was "let go" from my job as a First Year Teacher at Harvard H. Ellis Regional Vocational Technical School in Danielson, I was further "seduced" by the low rent offered to me at a luxury apartment by the beach in New London. From rising unemployment...and disability and the Public Healthcare increasing physical health problems, concurrently occurring with "The Change" (2006) a sudden change in my friend's behavior (Fall of 2004)...and changes to my work environment at Shop Rite in NL (January 2005-April 2006)...changes in the behavior of my nosy neighbors at The Residence (Fall of 2007)....leads to CSI-New London...and ("Pride goeth before a Fall!")...CSI #2. "I'm Denise Hickey. And the reason I am in The Situation I'm in today is because --- I made a mistake!!!...* * * :) (Denise...Denise Dances...2011!) -- 14 years later!


....grew out of Hinduism in the 6th Century B.C. As the individual personality progresses through a series of graded paradises, a pure spiritual state of "Nirvana" is attained. Ultimately, though, the soul must continue its pilgrimmage. In Buddhism and Hinduism, Hell does exist. But it's not necessarily permanent. In Buddhism, Hell is entered by a "Bodhisattva," who then releases other inmates. A "Bodhisattva" is a highly evolved spirit and on the way to becoming a Buddha, due to merit gained through previous earthly lives. In Chinese, Tibetan, and Japanese Buddhism, Yama is the judge of the dead. He is the son of Vivasvant, the first mortal to die and move forward to...The Afterlife. (SOURCE: "The Afterlife: An Investigation into the Mysteries of Life After Death," by Jenny Randles and Peter Hough, Copyright 1993, The Berkeley Publishing Group, New York, NY.) For further reading on the subject of Life after Death; check out "Embraced by the Light," (by Grace Easley, I believe)....and "Talking to Heaven" by James van Praagh (co-producer of the TV series, "Ghost Whisperer;" you know, the one starring Jennifer Love Hewiitt). -- Both books are usually available at the Book Barn, on Main Street in downtown Niantic.


UP NEXT! Back to the Ancient Belief Systems: BUDDHISM. Up Next: "You Made a Mistake!"...and finally, "Confront Injustice." That's all I have for you today, folks! As I try to avoid my "stalkers," I have opted to take my "dirty laundry" elsewhere! :)

"Out to Lunch"

What? It's time for lunch already? I just got here! Oh, well...OASIS has resumed, as of Tuesday, September 6, 2011. OASIS: Field Notes - "Summer Scene." For all of you avid followers of my MAAP website, I'm sorry I haven't been up to par in the past few months, in posting photos of my most recent works of art. I have a stockpile of 5 rolls of film, dating back to last Fall 2010; yet to be developed. COMING SOON to MAAP! "Art Show at City Hall / TSETSE Gallery" in May 2010. The long awaited "Manisses Nativity Scene," of course. (OILS OF BLOCK ISLAND). Just in time for Christmas!..."Pachelbel Pine...with Robin Feather Study" (BACKYARD SCENES / OF MINI GOLF COURSE.) And "The Familiar" (BACKYARD SCENES). For more info, please go to: Just be patient, OK? (I should be the one to talk. :)

Up and Running!

Hi! Live from the Groton Library today. I'm back! First of all, I would like to say that I feel extremely blessed to have remained unscathed in the wake of Hurricane Irene. She is a remember to all of us that health and safety are two of the most important things in life and should not be taken for granted. In other words, quit yer b***ching about "the little things." It is daunting to hear on the local news each evening about the stress of many homes in the area being without power for about a week or longer. The things we all take for granted! I hope and pray that we are all able to get back on track with our daily lives soon and that most of you have been able to escape the "wrath" of Hurricane Irene, "unscathed," as well. As I've often said, I've survived many situations of danger throughout my life of being a "young," independent adult and I would like to add, "unscathed." Let's hope my victories, and yours, as well -- Continue! (Once again, I couldn't have made it this far without you, My Guardian Angels here on Earth; and -- My TWO in Heaven!!!...* * * :)

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Hurricane Irene!

Tuesday, August 30, 2011....Live here from the Groton Library! First of all, I hope and pray that everyone has managed to STAY SAFE and sound during Hurricane Irene; with minimal damage to property and person. As for me; I was kept high and dry on the 8th floor of my apartment building. However, we did lose the power around 12 Noon on Sunday; and the power was restored sometime Monday afternoon when I arrived home (again, from the Groton Library). I am sooooo depressed that Ocean Beach is closed today, as it would be great for swimming (always hot due to tail end of "The Change," I guess). "Don't mess with me!" :)....I am always happy to see justice done, but it appears we are not out of the woods yet. Great job! From the email I received, as the G. Library just received power for the internet as I walked in this afternoon; it sounds as if Ocean Beach is trying to open tomorrow, Wednesday. As anyone who knows me too well can tell you; I often find a way to b**ch and complain about things. But, the things we take for granted. I got my power back! A/C, nice and cool, soothing, helps me sleep. Lights, so I can see and read. My TV and my music channels. My stove, microwave, and toaster so I can cook and eat hot food! My coffee maker in the morning! Lovin' it! Yesterday, I spent most of the day outside, here at the Groton Library, and I was rewarded by seeing dozens of rams and lambs in full sight in the front fields along Route 1; alongside colorful zinnias growing in the gardens. I even spied two little brown baby lambs! Of course, DQ was closed. (What did they do with all that melting ice cream?) And I walked the track around Poquonnock Plains Park, but it was hot and populated. In the fall, esp October, it will be beautiful there. I am in the process of photographing all of my paintings, in the hopes of future reproduction into prints and notecards, but I do not see any profit in this. The artists whom I've met and seen out on Block Island appear to be doing quite well in the sales of original oils and watercolors. Stay tuned for my Solo Art Show at the East Lyme Public Library and Community Center, for the month of September 2011! Come on in and get your Christmas shopping done early this year! I know that my readership has dropped this month; but I went through my slush pile at home and I still have some more good stuff for you! However, I would like to attempt to make my off-line creative art & writing projects a priority this Fall! If I don't keep my blog up and running; however, people are going to wonder what I'm up to...:). Got some good stuff, everyone. More to come! Keep reading! Denise...Denise Dances...2011.

Thursday, August 18, 2011


25 hits last Tuesday. Not bad! I guess everyone is returning from their vacations and getting back-to-school shopping under control. It is good to stay "in control," but no one is in control or has control all of the time. Take a look at some of these "beauts" where I live. Safety first! In retrospect, this summer has had its difficulties, but there is nothing so healing as an invigorating swim in the ocean, even weathering the waves. The morning swims have been restorative to my health this summer, through June, July and now, late August. Swimming is what Russell loved to do best, and I've spent this summer processing the loss of my dear friend. My loss; Heaven's gain. Regardless that he has been "promoted" to Guardian Angel, along with Paula, I, as well as many of you are feeling the loss of his earthly friendship and other relationships very strongly. Nobody said it was gonna be easy, but swimming while remembering Russell has been very healing. Try it sometime! During the month of September, it is sure to be delightful. C'mon! Remember Russ(ell)! Enjoy the legacy he has left for us! I shall return to this format, probably sometime next week. See ya then. Live from the G. Library, home of the rams and lambs! (Denise...Denise Dances...2011)

Tuesday, August 16, 2011


There's always something. UP NEXT: Moving right along in the ancient belief systems of yesteryear, I will present to you next, BUDDHISM...and ISLAM. Then, CHRISTIANITY. Then, Australian Aborigines. And finally, the Native American belief system. Take your choice! COMING SOON TO MAAP! "Manisses Nativity Scene" early September. FOR MORE INFO, go to: -- I'm a believer!


COMING SOON! MAAP goes to the East Lyme Public Library for the entire month of September 2011! In a Solo Art Show featuring 20 original paintings & drawings by..Denise Hickey. INCLUDING: the CAROUSEL SCENES series of 3...Oils from the early 1990s...the BACKYARD SCENES series from 2010...Oils of Ocean Beach, including the MURAL OF LONG ISLAND SOUND (in 6 panels)...and a Sneak Preview: SCENES OF MINI GOLF COURSE: "Covered Bridge No. 15." Most will be for sale! Just in time for Christmas! ("All good things come to those who wait...and don't talk :). The East Lyme Community Center is located on Society Road, just off of Route 161, and can be reached via Exit 74 from I-95.


ANCIENT BELIEFS: Hinduism and Buddhism. Is there life out there? I'll say! -- Rams, lambs (growing big and woolly now); two donkeys standing under a tree; chickens (lots of them); and the goats are around somewhere. I heard the big white dogs barking as I ate lunch out back this afternoon but I remain undaunted, as always! The people of early India did not believe in reincarnation. After death, man went to a heavenly place with the gods if he was good, and to Hell if he was evil. The Iranians shared this belief. The prophet from Iran, Zoroaster founded the religion called Zoroastrianism around the 6th or 7th century B.C. INDIA: 6th or 7th Century B.C. A complex religious system emerged, from a fusion of Aryan and Sumerian influences. Between 1700 and 1200 B.C., the Aryans, a tribe of nomads from Europe invaded Northern India. Their religion was based on sky worship which absorbed the gods and goddesses of Greek and Roman mythology. Around 3500 B.C., the Sumerians settled in Babylonia. They brought abuot a cultural revolution which has influenced society to the present day. Each settlement had its own deity. HINDUISM. A hierarchy of gods emerges, who are all parts of a unifying principle, "a force said to exist throughout nature and in all men." (The religions of India are the only ones which believe that after death, the soul merges with a greater being.) HINDUISM has no founder, but a body of texts known as the "Veda," meaning wisdom. The Vedic texts express a belief in rebirth and transmigration as well: "the soul may be reborn in the body of an animal." THE LAW OF KARMA is the reason for rebirth! that the soul keeps returning to a mortal existence until all lessons of spiritual evolution are learned. Before branching off into BUDDHISM, allow me to pause right here and tell you what I think. ("You give your opinion." -- R.C.) From 3500 B.C., when the Sumerians settled in Babylonia and influenced HINDUISM, I feel that the belief system which emerged is the closest to the truth, "my truth." I try to respect all beliefs and do not wish to "convert" anyone to my way of thinking. Just to inform, to give choices, and most of all, to give HOPE to "non-believers." I believe in "the Force said to exist throughout nature and in all men." Anyone can see a Design in the flowers and plants and trees in Nature, in animals, and in the human body, with its complex systems and the way it works (if you take care of it properly.) I doubt the idea of the soul actually merging with a greater Being upon death. I am not sure about transmigration, but my friend Paula did believe that humans can re-incarnate as animals. (Please see earlier posts of Summer 2008, "Paula," etc.) HINDUISM: The search for "Brahman" (or "Atman"): the unifying principle which binds the Universe. It leads to mystical states of mind, "the cosmic consciousness." It shows the cosmos as spiritual and alive,...that death is an absurdity, that everyone and everything has eternal life. UP NEXT: Buddhism! -- Have I made a believer out of you yet?...(SOURCE: "The Afterlife," by Jenny Randles and Peter Hough, Copyright 1993. The Berkeley Publishing Group, New York, NY. (Denise...Denise Dances...2011!)

Ancient Chinese Secrets!

"No matter how the wind howls, the mountain cannot bow to it." "The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all." (FROM: Walt Disney Pictures Presents: MULAN. 2004 release.)

The Confident Woman

"....Maybe you had negative messages fed to you since you were a child. It could have been parents who had troubles themselves and took their frustrations out on you. It could have been a teacher who delighted in belittling you in front of the rest of the class. Perhaps your parents excessively compared you to another sibling, {overtly or covertly} {sic}; giving you the impression that you were flawed. You may have experienced one or more broken relationships and became convinced it was your fault. But whatever the reason for your self-doubt and negative attitude toward yourself, it has to change if you truly desire to enjoy God's best in your life... Resist and refuse to let doubt convince you that good things won't happen to you and your family; aggressively expect good things! Ask God to give you divine supernatural favor and then expect to see it in your life daily! (SOURCE: "The Confident Woman Devotional," by Joyce Meyer, Copyright 2011. FaithWorks: Hackette Book Group; New York, NY.) For more info, go to:

Disney - Bring honor to us all (mulan) Lyrics

Disney - Bring honor to us all (mulan) Lyrics


I think that went pretty well; don't you? UP NEXT...we will finally have those ancient belief system summaries for you; culled from my very own independent research...including Hinduism & Buddhism as well as a few others. Today, I would like to include a summary of songs from the movie, "Mulan" and present them here for all of you to enjoy. UP NEXT...Solo Gig in September! (Just in time for Christmas!) and COMING SOON TO MAAP! (Psst! "Manisses Nativity Scene" (OILS OF BLOCK ISLAND) in September!) For more info, go to: (P.S. It's amazing what people will stoop to when they owe money. But remember this: I'm not in this alone!!!...* * * :) -- (Denise...Denise Dances...2011). And now, it's time for lunch and the rams & lambs out back!

Discovering Mulan

DISCOVERING MULAN...A team of creative people, employed by DISNEY in Feature Animation spent 3 weeks in China in June to July 1994. The movie took 5 years and 700 employees to create and produce! An artist on the team journeyed to the caves of Magou?...and copied the ancient paintings on the cave walls related to the Northern Wei (?) Dynasty. Dark caves -- drawing -- while holding a flashlight! Pam Coats, Producer of FEATURE ANIMATION for Disney said, after three weeks in China: "I felt an affinity to the people and the culture...noticing the interaction; the importance of the story of Mulan to the people. And I came home and said, We are going to do the story justice. And we're going to try to use all the really great research we got there and put it in the movie." (SOURCE: "Walt Disney Presents MULAN: Special Effects, 2004 Release.") Note: It appears that a few "cuckholds" have been on the scene for quite some time, who would use other people for their own selfish, evil and greedy purposes. Just remember: Whatever you are doing now -- is going to return to you -- a thousand fold!!!...* * * :) (Denise...Denise Dances...2011!)

"My Voice"

MY VOICE. No, I'm not "going away." "Denise Dances" - May 23, 2008. "MAAP" website - June 2009. "Fool's Gold" book blog - June 2010 - July 2011. All my life, three years (3) has been the maximum amount of time I've been able to work the same job before burning out, resulting in physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion. I worked for McGraw-Hill Financial Services in NYC from June 1987 until October 1990, 3 years and 4 months. The longest I've ever held the same job was at Shop Rite in New London from March 2002 until April 2006, (4 years) until serious physical health problems forced me to quit, as my body continued to undergo "The Change" around the ages of 40-44. Yes, "The Change" and the changes within the body and temperament do start to occur, perhaps even as early as the 30s, but most definitely in the time period called "Middle Age," that time in a woman's life known as "The Change," a woman in her 40s! (If you haven't checked it out; you should!) I. I started the "Denise Dances" blog at the encouragement of my college colleague, Deb Nieman (see her blog, "Antiquity Oaks.") I began my blog to expose what I felt was the negligence of the public healthcare system, according to my own experience. However, a crime scene began to emerge in places where I've lived, which has actually been the case in many situations throughout my life since I "moved out" to attend college in Fall 1984. "Crime X 3" is enough for me. I'll be the first to admit that I'm not cut out for it. It's time to step outside and allow those with the right equipment to take over! "No one can do everything but everyone can do something." ("Denise Dances," May 23, 2008 to the present: 8/15/11.) II. Making Art Affordable to the Public is the business of my art; which I created in June 2009. The business end I refer to is the actual "showing" or exhibiting of my paintings and drawings in local galleries and public places in Southeastern Connecticut (SECT). "MAAP" is also the website where I showcase my paintings for on-line viewing, created in June 2009, as well. III. OASIS is the name I gave my studio which originally began outdoors in July 2009. Outdoor Art Studio - (isolated scene) at the observation deck, end of the Nature Walk at Ocean Beach! However, once I began painting, in earnest, indoors in October 2009, my "studio" remained OASIS. OASIS, October 2009 to present, August 2011 (2 years). I plan to continue to paint (OASIS) and display my paintings in public (MAAP). However, due to fast approaching burn-out, I'm considering just 4 Art Shows in 2012: (1) the Mystic Art Center member show in February; (2) the "Art for Life" auction at Mystic Arts Center to benefit the "Alliance for Living" in New London, March 31, 2012; and possibly a summer exhibit at Mystic Arts Center; as well as a Fall show at the East Lyme Public Library. IV. "Fool's Gold" book blog: June 2010 - July 2011. I'm happy to say that I am done with the F.G. book blog, for now. This blog began as an on-line version of my novel, based upon my life in NYC in the early 1980s. As time went on, I became addicted to this format and enthusiastically added my: "Tales of Brookline;" "New York Re-visited," "The Single Mom of Cactus County," "Poetry of NYC," and "Poetry of ECSU," as well as finally my prize-winning fiction, "The Secret of Cherrygrove Manor." Who says I don't work? "Why don't you just enjoy your life?" Paula once said. I think it's enjoy the fall...the beautiful weather before it gets cold...outdoor walks...good food...and of course, some more painting; outdoors and in! The idea of keeping a "private journal" has entered my mind...! (Denise...Denise Dances...August 16, 2011!)

Teenage Dream Lyrics

Teenage Dream Lyrics: "Katy Perry Teenage Dream lyrics in the Teenage Dream Album. These Teenage Dream lyrics are performed by Katy Perry Get the music video and song lyrics here. You think I'm pretty without any make-up on You think I'm funny when I tell the punch line wrong"

Saturday, August 13, 2011

Hi from W Duck Pond!

Hi! Had a nice swim / boardwalk walk to OASIS / and walk along the shore to the stone jetty which separates Waterford Beach via the Channel from Ocean Beach in New London! So you're crossing the Town Line by wading across the channel, a pilgrimmage I used to make during the earlier part of the 2000 decade. Walk down Ocean Ave to OB, along the shore, across the Channel, along Waterford Beach, up the road to Camp Harkness; then to Harkness Park, and across another Channel to The Strand! I haven't been able to make this walk in many moons, but at least to start from OB would be a great start! Fall is coming! I think that Seaside Park would be a cool hike to take, as well. The weather is yucky and I'm starting to feel the doldrums. What am I going to do to keep me busy and happy during the rainy days which are about to deluge us? Go to Niantic Cinema? See "The Help!" Stay tuned for either Monday or Tuesday, when I continue my own pilgrimmage to bring to you, fun facts re: life after death in ancient belief systems around the world. My readership is down this month. Guess some of you are on vacation or ya got back-to-school shopping underway, already! Take care and will talk again from the Groton Library. Got another fun creative project underway this month, so honeeey see you all at the beeeaaaach! This summer for the month of August and into the lovely fall months. It's gonna be great this year! (How do I know. I got not just One, but Two Guardian Angels in Heaven!) Denise Quack-quack!

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Time to Cool Off!

Good afternoon to everyone here, live from the Groton Library, home of the rams & lambs! Groton Town is a very good place for me to cool off and I feel very much at home here, as it reminds me of my rural roots, including my childhood home in the woodsy Montville, CT and childhood memories spent with my sisters, my grandmother, Memere, and my cousins here in Groton. Joel Osteen once referred to "places of blessing" and I've elaborated in prior posts how the place of Groton has been a blessing to me. It is one of the only places where I feel I can truly experience that Peacable Kingdom. COMING SOON TO MAAP! "Manisses Nativity Scene," (OILS OF BLOCK ISLAND), 18 x 24 Oil on Canvas. A spin-off of A Peacable Kingdom by Edward Hicks. Coming to MAAP in September 2011! Finally! For more info, go to:


"They were leading a very nice life. Beach, friends, artists, baseball games for him, work for her. It seemed magical and easy to both of them, and she was grateful for his presence. Without meaning to, he had changed her life and added something she'd never had. A youthful side of life that had eluded her when she married young and had babies. Even before that, she had been busy learning from her father, and then later, working for him. She had never led the casual, unconventional life that Liam was still enjoying at forty. None of these people had tasted success yet, or the responsibilities and burdens that came with it. They worked hard but made almost nothing. Few if any were married, and no one...had children. They seemed to have no responsibilities at all...He had taken great pleasure all his life in swimming against the tides." (FROM: "Impossible" by Danielle Steele, Copyright 2005. Bantam Dell, div. of Random House. New York, NY)

Knapp Time!

(Forgive me for feeling hot and aggravated, due to having to take my laundry outside of my living quarters, in this extreme heat, due to circumstances beyond my control.) JESSIE EDWARDS STUDIO: Kate Knapp! "Visions of Block Island: Recent Paintings." August 11-24, 2011. Opening Reception: 8/13/11. 5-7pm. I have been admiring the "wet on wet" bold and brilliant style of the oil paintings of local scenes in Block Island by Kate Knapp for about the past two years. From the article I recently read, she has been painting for the past 40 years and has had extensive formal training in the best art schools in the Northeast. However, her own unique talent clearly shines through in her work. Training is good, but I feel her talent lies in the "doing" art: Getting out there on the island every Spring and Summer, and actually painting outdoors AMERICAN IMPRESSIONISM style -- rain or shine. Fortunately for her, art was her first love, and obviously, her talents were nurtured by the people who were close to her while she was very young. Regardless of the unique talents of anyone, if their abilities and talents aren't nurtured, supported and developed throughout their lives.....Good f'n luck! FOR MORE INFO, go to: and check out the article, "Love at First Sight," by Pam Atkinson, August 2011. Also, check out:

Be Humble

THE CONFIDENT WOMAN DEVOTIONAL (Copyright 2005, by Joyce Meyer): Be Humble!...."Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that in due time He may exalt you." -- 1 Peter 5:6....Joseph dreamed of having authority and being a great man. However, he was young and impetuous. Joseph's brothers hated him and sold him into slavery. God used the situation as an opportunity to test and train Joseph. He even spent thirteen years in prison for something he didn't do, but whatever happened to Joseph during those years definitely equipped him for his God-ordained role in history. Joseph rose to power with only Pharoah himself being greater. He was placed in a position to feed multitudes of people, including his father and brothers during seven years of famine. Peter had to be prepared by going through some very humbling experiences; he was a powerful man but a proud man as well. The Lord had to humble him before He could use him. Most strong leaders have a lot of natural talent, but they are also full of themselves (pride) and have to learn how to depend on God. They have to trade in their self-confidence for God-confidence. Your pain can become someone else's gain. Your mess can become your ministry if you will have a positive attitude and decide to let everything you go through prepare you for what is ahead. (P.S. I guess they forgot to mention patience!)